Christmas with parents, in-laws or just with a husband, wife and children? Do you want to spend Christmas this year differently than before? This can be stressful information for your loved ones. Think about how to tell them about it. If you are going to celebrate with your family, try to actively use the holiday time. Don't forget about yourself - Christmas is a moment to rest, reflect and relax.

Christmasis for sure specialholidays , but it's up to you how you spend it. You can forget about your problems and just celebrate. However, not everyone is lucky enough to feel the extraordinary magic of Christmas. Some face family conflicts and tensions. This is what happens in many homes, even those seemingly perfect.

Who to celebrate Christmas with?

This problem is often faced by, for example, young couples. They work a lot, they don't have time to enjoy themselves. They want to go somewhere on their own for Christmas, take a break from stress and stay together. And parents have a grudge - why do children spend Christmas outside the home?It also happens that some people want to please everyone. Often without thinking about themselves, they accept invitations from parents, parents-in-law, relatives. As a result, they spend their free days in a hurry. In such a situation, it is worth remembering that life is the art of choice, and an attempt to satisfy everyone's expectations is usually impossible.

Tip:Talk to your loved ones about your needs honestly.

Where to spend Christmas?

Think about how and where you would like to spend your holidays. Do you dream of a warm sea or mountains? This is your own and your partner's decision, and the rest of your family should respect it. Inform your relatives about your reasons for choosing. Emphasize that you will always remember them.

Tip:Think about your strategy and consider who you absolutely must visit. Don't decide to visit your unpopular cousin just because she is falling out. Organize your time in such a way as to gain at least one day only for your immediate family.

Christmas Eve at parents or in-laws?

Many of us still choose Christmas with the family. Then, traditionally, a dilemma arises: Christmas Eve at my parents, at yours, or maybe at both of them?

If the families live close to each other, the evening can be shared and part of Christmas Eve with some and some with the other parents. When it is not possible to logically plan everyone's visits, arrange that you are spending Christmas with your parents-in-law this year, and that you are going to your parents next year.

This solution is convenient when there are small children in a marriage - you do not have to drag them to both grandparents on the same day, and the little ones do not have the impression that they are spending Christmas on the road.

Although a lot has changed in Polish families, parents are still reluctant to come to adult children, explaining their tradition, so they do not want to hear about joint holidays with the young.

But maybe it is worth changing the usual patterns, if they do not suit us? Try to arrange that the whole family spends Christmas alternately with you, then with your parents, and then with your favorite aunt or grandfather. Thanks to this, no one will feel harmed.

Tip:There are many possibilities to spend Christmas Eve with your family, but the most important thing is to establish the rules long before Christmas - it will avoid unnecessary understatements and arguments.

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Holidays are often a time of difficult questions …

Ubiquitous aunts, pushy uncles - in every family there are such "raisins". However, this does not mean that you have to submit to their dictates and answer every question. Don't let your loved ones enter your life with shoes.

Remember, however, that such people usually have good intentions. You can not be offended by them and be tactless. Think if you are devoting enough time to your family. If not, try to find a time to talk to relatives during the year.How to answer relatives' questions so as not to offend anyone?

  • If you feel that your aunt sitting next to you is tempted to ask about your salary or your partner, try to focus the conversation on more neutral topics (e.g. he alth).
  • Make it clear. Explain to your relatives that by crossing a certain limit, they violate your privacy. Make it clear that you don't feel like explaining your life and prefer to enjoy the holiday atmosphere. Please say in a polite tone that this is your private matter.
  • You can turn indiscreet questions into a joke. Or, say the same thing every time. If your uncle asks you when you will get married, answer "when the time comes." And when you find your significant other, introduce them to your family during the holidays.

What to do at Christmas so as not to get bored?

WIn many homes, Christmas looks similar: a lavishly laid table, a playing TV and unfortunately… overwhelming boredom. Children wander aimlessly around the apartment, and adults discreetly glance at their watches, listening to the same story of their aunt and a set of anecdotes from their uncle every year. In this way, you miss a chance for a truly unique experience. It could be otherwise!

Free days can be used for family walks, admiring nativity scenes or listening to (and singing together) Christmas carols. It is worth preparing a few attractions that will integrate the family.

Younger children can be interested in a quiz or physical games. Puns or arranging puzzles together are also a good idea.

However, in the heat of preparations and visits, we often forget about ourselves. A pity, because this is the time when it is worth indulging in little pleasures. Do you love oil bath? Would you like a good book? Do it. You deserve!

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