Swingers are people in long-term relationships who have sex with another couple or even with a few people they don't know. Often married people choose swinging to add some spice to their intimate life. Swingers argue that this form of sexual relations strengthens the bond between partners and proves their boundless trust in each other. What is swinging and what are the benefits and risks of this form of sex?
Contents:
- Swingersi: the history of swinging
- Swingers: benefits and threats of swinging
- Swingers: Are their relationships happy?
- Swingers: in which countries is swinging the most popular?
Swingersare people taking part inswinging , that is the sexual exchange of wives / husbands or partners / partners. Swingers are people who live in stable relationships (often legalized marriages). During sex, swingers have sex with their friends' partners or with complete strangers. Classically 4 people can participate in such meetings. However, they often take the form of group sex, where a dozen or so people have sex with each other at the same time.
Swingersi: the history of swinging
The emergence of the phenomenon of swinging and the group of people who have this type of sex - swingers - is called the next sexual revolution. It owes its origin to the development of the Internet. He gave people apparent anonymity, and this is one of the most important factors influencing the willingness to share erotic fantasies with others. On the Internet, people are bolder, if only because they can talk to strangers, who later do not have to meet in real life. This is what prompts swingers to set up various types of virtual groups where they share their experiences, insights and, above all, arrange sex.
In Poland, and more often, special clubs for swingers are established, which facilitate contacts with such people, not only in large Polish cities. Lubieniec or Czeladź - there you can also go to a party organized by swingers. Clubs for such people in smaller towns are always controversial.
Swingers: benefits and threats of swinging
If you are in a long-term relationship where wintimate relationships are routine and bored, and your partner shares your desire to have sex with another couple - you can try sex with others and become swingers. Perhaps it will revive your sex relationships. If, on the other hand, you are single and allow yourself to live with almost strangers, you will gain a lot of experience in terms of bed preferences and in the future you will have more knowledge about the expectations of your regular partner.
You have to remember, however, that being a swinger carries certain dangers - not only of a physical nature, but also of a mental one.
- Sex addiction
First of all, it's easy to become addicted to group sex during such intense sexual experiences. An area of life that seems to be controlled as a result can make having sex with one partner cease to be any kind of satisfaction, and your thoughts will still only revolve around intercourse with other swingers.
- Remorse
Some people may experience remorse or a sense of shame even after the fact. This applies to people who are early acquaintances with other swingers. You can feel guilty conscience towards your regular partner, as well as religious dilemmas regarding, for example, confession from decisions made consciously and with commitment and the willingness to repeat these practices (without promising to repair your sins).
- Morbid fear of unmasking
The fear that a stranger will find out the truth about unusual sexual preferences in some swingers causes delusions. They feel that someone who looks at them strangely at a bus stop, at work or at school knows their sexual preferences. Such ideas often apply to people who have not yet fully adapted to this lifestyle or the opinion of the environment is very important to them.
- Abandoning your partner
Moreover, there is a chance that when having intercourse with another person, you can become so infatuated with them that it will cause you to abandon your regular partner for her.
Swingers and safe sexAlthough swingers are considered very brave and open-minded people, they should remember about their safety and he alth above all. No matter how much satisfaction they get from having sex with other, often strangers, people should always be safe when having sex. No method of contraception can guarantee 100% safety, but skipping this point at swingers meetings is veryirresponsible and runs the risk of getting infected.
Diseases that may occur after intercourse without a condom with strangers include chlamydiosis, gonorrhea, genital herpes, syphilis, HIV.
Swingers: Are their relationships happy?
Swingers are said to be the only group forming legalized marriages in which there is no infidelity. These cannot take place when a partner knows about all sexual contacts outside of marriage and, in addition, agrees or even actively participates in them. However, does this arrangement guarantee no conflicts?
Some say that confessing to your partner your innermost fantasies about wanting to have sex with another couple, person or even a large group of people at the same time proves the great trust we have in a given person and total honesty towards them. However, it often happens that only one person in a couple would like to try something new. Then it puts pressure and pressure on the other half. Even if an indecisive person gives in by agreeing to try intercourse with others over time, it may turn out that the situation is beyond them. This leads to quarrels, remorse, and, as a result, breakups.
Therefore, it is worth to decide on swinging only when both sides of the relationship clearly express their willingness to try this form of sex. Persuading your partner, and agreeing to have sex with others just to please the other person, misses the point. Sooner or later, the hidden feelings will come to light, which may lead to the breakup of the relationship.
Worth knowingSwingers: in which countries is swinging the most popular?
The website Victoria Milan, created for those who are looking for romance, has published a study conducted on a group of swingers (4907 women) from all over Europe, from which you can find out in which countries swingers form the most numerous groups. These are, among others :
- France (approx. 33% of marriages),
- Norwiegia (approx. 31.5% of marriages),
- Netherlands (approx. 20% of marriages),
- Spain (approx. 20% of marriages).