Provoked (controlled) betrayal is about people who get aroused when their partner has sex with someone else. This behavior is usually seen in men and has a lot to do with exhibitionism and masochism. What are the causes of the syndrome of provoked betrayal?
"My partner urges me to go to bed with one of his friends. At first I thought he was checking me out, but now I think he really wants it. His insistence is unbearable, but otherwise We're doing really well. What is he up to and what should I do? " - one of the readers of "Zdrowie" asks.
Provoked betrayal syndrome- because this is how the described behavior of the partner is defined - most often it concerns men and consists in persuading the partner to have intercourse with other men, and then a detailed report on the course of these events. Many women at first perceive such a request as a test of fidelity. Anyway, the request is not explicitly formulated at the beginning. Only with time the waiting are communicated in a way that does not raise doubts as to the intentions. Women's reactions vary from horror to indignation. There are also women who, for the sake of peace of mind, begin to deceive their partner that they have done such an act and make up various stories; and finally, those who actually had intercourse with another man to satisfy their partner's needs. It quickly turns out that the problem has not been solved and the partner demands more betrayals and detailed descriptions.
Provoked betrayal syndrome - causes
What drives men persuading their partners to cheat? Well, betrayal stimulates their imaginations and fantasies, it can replace the need for group sex, which in real conditions they do not dare to undertake. Some men thus build their self-esteem as a sexually active partner by comparing themselves to the partners their women have had intercourse with.
In the specialist literature, these behaviors are described as a form ofcandulezism , which has a lot to do with exhibitionism and masochism. A man feels excitement when he presents his woman's naked body to other men, and may feel suffering and humiliation.
Creating a relationship with a man (less often a woman) withthe syndrome of provoked betrayal is very difficult and often leads to a deep conflict and, as a result, to the breakdown of the relationship. A treatment with an experienced sexologist may be a rescue.
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