Sex after childbirth is a problem for every second woman. Some of them feel disgusted after giving birth to sex, others have a threefold increase in libido. Freshly baked mums can lead their partners to white fever with their unstable sexuality. What influences sex after childbirth? And which method of contraception will work in this situation?
Sex after childbirthis the last thing a new mom dreams about and dreams about. And it's hardly surprising. Lack of sleep and chronic fatigue make wild sex after childbirth out of the question for every second woman. On the other hand, as many new moms not only quickly feel like having intercourse, but even begin to demand it. For some, less than two weeks after giving birth, desire returns to the levels it was before pregnancy, and often even exceeds them.
Sex after childbirth: rush not recommended
There are many misconceptions about sex after childbirth. For example, it is believed that a woman's libido depends on whether she is breastfeeding or not. Meanwhile, experts say, it does not matter much. As in the case of natural and caesarean delivery. The latter, contrary to appearances, sometimes turns out to be much more exhausting. Regardless of how a woman gave birth to a child, sex, or at least its classic form, should be delayed for a minimum of 5-6 weeks. This is the time needed to complete the puerperium, i.e. for the body to return to the state it was before the birth.
Having sex in the postpartum period is not pleasant for either the woman or her partner. The pains and contractions of the uterus, as well as the secretions from the genital tract, do not act as an aphrodisiac. Although gynecologists soothe, intercourse during the puerperium is usually not dangerous, it can cause bleeding in some women. And then the period of sexual abstinence must be extended. However, it may happen that six weeks have passed and the woman is still bleeding - then you should refrain from intercourse longer.
According to an expertdr Adam Mościcki, obstetrician-gynecologist, Department of Perinatology, Medical University of PoznańThe six weeks postpartum rule is perfectly valid. This is roughly the length of the puerperium in which they occurspotting / bleeding. During this time, the wound of the perineum is healed after the incision and the cervix is closed, which opens up to 10 cm during delivery, and the uterus contracts. For patients after cesarean section, it is the time for the abdominal and uterine wound to heal properly. Early intercourse is not dangerous but can be painful. It is worth trying other sources of sexual satisfaction at the beginning, e.g. masturbation, oral sex. Lowered hormone levels (during lactation) cause vaginal dryness. It is easy to remedy this by using moisturizing creams / gels, but you can also get a prescription for creams with estrogens from your doctor, which will restore the normal firmness of the vaginal tissues much faster. Remember that when breastfeeding, menstruation may not appear for many months, but fertility may return after the puerperium period, i.e. six weeks after giving birth!
Sex after childbirth: natural aversion
While some women would dream of fiery sex with their loved one a few days after giving birth, in others the very thought of having sex causes disgust and disgust. Sometimes this sexual anorexia can lead to a constant aversion to sex and even aggression towards your partner.
In the high-risk group there are women affected by a strong baby blues, that is, as we would say, postpartum depression. They show disgust towards rapprochement much more often. The stress of motherhood puts even the greatest love and lust to the test. If the partner's impatience and rejection lasts longer than the puerperium period, then it is good to seek the help of a psychotherapist.
Affectionate and understanding gestures on the part of the partner will certainly be helpful, but they may not be enough on their own. However, the natural acts of anger and impatience of a mum of a few weeks old baby should not be confused with the chronic rejection of the partner.
Postpartum sex: contraception necessary
Once the postpartum period is over and the bleeding and exudation have stopped, you don't need to limit yourself anymore. At least when it comes to positions and forms of sexual intercourse. However, if we are talking about postpartum contraception, you should be especially careful here.
Women who became mothers in recent months are especially prone to getting pregnant again. Contrary to what lovers of natural methods of pregnancy prevention claim, breastfeeding not only does not protect against re-motherhood, but may even increase its probability. The only way is to use one or more contraceptives.
Gynecologists recommend young peoplecondoms, globules and vaginal creams to parents. Once used IUDs are advised against, as are most standard contraceptive pills that pass into breast milk. That is why a single-ingredient pill was created for young mothers, which, as well as the multi-ingredient ones, protects against too early another pregnancy.