Sex after pregnancy, although it may be hard to believe right after giving birth, can give you as much - or even more - joy than before conception. You gradually get used to being parents. It's time for you to remember that you are lovers too. Sex also cements the relationship - not just the common baby. How to make sex after childbirth successful?

Sex after pregnancymay be unsatisfying at first. Even if the puerperium has already passed,having sex after having a babyis usually not your priority. You are unconscious due to lack of sleep and fatigue. The baby takes most of your energy and you fall on your feet in the evening. You dream about finally going to bed and… falling asleep. It is true that a moment before falling asleep you remember the wonderful moments spent together in bed, but fatigue wins.

Wake up, parents! The puerperium is long gone, mom's body is back to normal, the baby has found a predictable, steady rhythm. It's time for you to come back to each other and rekindle the fire of passion - sex after pregnancy.

Sex after pregnancy - talking about desires

You haven't loved each other for a long time, your life has changed a lot. It seems to you that going back to the bedroom opens up a whole new stage. So try to treat him like that. Put yourself in the role of shy teenagers and approach the big moment step by step. You both think about it, you wonder what it will be like, whether the pregnancy and childbirth experienced by a young mother will take away the joy of sex. Perhaps you have disturbing thoughts that block your lust.

Sex after pregnancy - what are young parents afraid of?

He wonders if his partner is ready to have sex both physically and mentally. She is afraid that she will feel discomfort or pain during intercourse. Is it like he wants to make love, or will she go to bed only because he expects it from her. She, in turn, may be concerned about how he will react to her altered body. She also doesn't know if she'll be able to relax, or if she'll be thinking all the time about her big belly, stretch marks and breasts swollen with milk.

Many women are also afraid of getting pregnant again. The thought of the next baby, while the baby absorbs all her time and attention, can effectively stop the young mother from wanting to play amorous. Therefore, instead of looking atfrom opposite ends of the sofa, talk about your fears. Say what you miss, what you would like. "I miss your touch", "I would like to hug you" - such sentences, voiced desires come closer, thanks to them a bubble of uncertainty related to returning to sex may burst.

Important

What does HE think when he says:

  • I want you - this is not an expression of the lust of a sex-obsessed male - your man gives you a signal that he misses not only passionate sex, but also your closeness and attention.
  • You look great - you think he's lying because he wants to drag you to bed. Have you ever considered that he might like your curves? We believe that a woman must fit in the size zero - they love prominent buttocks and large breasts.
  • It will be as before - it does not mean that he does not notice your tiredness and everyday chaos related to caring for a baby. He just promises you a passionate night - let him keep that promise.

What SHE thinks when she says:

  • I'm tired - it doesn't mean that you don't attract her anymore - she flies off her feet and dreams only of hugging you and falling asleep.
  • I look terrible - it's not coquetry. Her body has changed, and it will be a while before she looks at herself more favorably. Don't deny it, you better emphasize what you like about her. Buy her a sexy T-shirt that will reveal her legs and hide her belly.
  • I will never get pregnant again - this is not a warning: "stay away", but a signal that she is only able to care for one baby at a time and that effective contraception is important to her.
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Sex after pregnancy - erotic warm-up

Maybe it will be completely different in bed. Most likely it will get better! But to find out, you have to approach sex slowly - as if it were your first time. If you don't have much to worry about, you may find that coming back to the bedroom is as natural as breathing. But if you have had a difficult childbirth behind you and a few weeks, during which the unfriendly tension between you was growing, and in addition, for example, your baby suffers from colic, it is worth taking some time and doing a decent warm-up. How?

First of all, before you go to bed, do whatever can be done - except intercourse. Focus on kissing, hugging, touching. You can do this anytime you are together. Seek closeness whenever you can, it will allow your bodies to yearn for passion again. If intercourse is not yet possible, remember all of themways of indulging yourself beyond the classical intercourse. Erotic massage, oral sex - whatever you want, as long as it gives you pleasure.

You can ask grandma to take the baby for a walk. But don't expect sex then - it won't be successful if you have to make love on signal. If you have an hour to yourself, take a bath together, kiss each other, hug each other. If you warm up properly, your bath may have an unexpected and very pleasant end …

Sex after pregnancy - time for contraception

As before the first time, not only favorable conditions are important, but also effective contraception. Now you are adults, you can make love anywhere - on the carpet in the living room, in the shower, on the kitchen counter. But how you protect yourself is just as important. Talk about him earlier. If she has taken pills so far and is breastfeeding now, a gynecologist should be consulted whether she can use them, or should she change them to other pills. Or maybe you prefer a different method of contraception?

Come to the topic creatively, let each of you give your own proposal, choose the best way. Have you decided to go back to condoms? Look for those that will not only protect you, but also give you more fun (colorful, with insets, fragrances). Or maybe you can buy a new, sexy toy? Contraception is a serious topic, but you no longer need to be serious in the bedroom. The more slack, spontaneity and tenderness you put into bed, the better it will be for you. Have fun!

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