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Pessimism takes away energy, and this energy is needed to reach for new challenges. Lack of optimism - the conviction that there is no point in starting if you fail, makes the best solution to abandon all actions. Therefore, it is worth trying to face it. How to turn a pessimist into an optimist?
Pessimismnegatively affects he alth,pessimistalso has a lot less joy in life. That is why it is worth learning to control black thoughts and try to see the world, if not in pink glasses, then at least in pastel colors. Try our ways to deal with pessimism.
- Do not plan in too much detail. The perfect plan not only for life, but even for a day does not exist. The washing machine can always break down, the daughter loses her keys, and you break the heel. Instead of thinking, "I am unlucky," it is better to say to yourself: "It happens to everyone" (and we will certainly find some examples of unlucky events that have been experienced by a sister, neighbor, friend).
- Reward yourself. A streak of unpleasant experiences will throw even the most optimistic person off balance. Therefore, you must learn to please yourself. Then you will be able to compensate for disappointment in one area with something nice in another. You can cheer yourself up by doing what you like. End a bad day at work with a walk in your favorite park and your favorite tea in a nice tea room.
- Be like a man. Do you often get the feeling that your partner doesn't care about your problems? Do you want to complain to him, "talk" your affairs, and you encounter a "wall"? Indeed, sometimes a woman is angry that a man doesn't discuss and experience problems with her, letting go of her grumbling ears. But I think his soul envies him that he can not worry about everything. Maybe it is worth following an example from men?
- Talk more often. Talking to someone who can distant the problem works! Just getting out of yourself and naming the trouble gives a lot. It's best to start like an amazing story: "You won't believe what happened to me today" and feel like a narrator, not a victim-hero of the event.
- Beware of complainers. We meet our friends and begin to outdo each other in who is worse and why, and then we have an even worse mood. Stop! As soon as someone starts to complain too much, they betterinterrupt with a short: "How are you doing?"
When a crisis occurs …
Self-tormenting can be stronger than common sense. When your thoughts are focused on a problem, it's hard to suddenly say "stop", "what do I care?" Or "it's going to be okay." What can we do then?
- In prominent places it is worth placing cards with simple slogans, eg "But I can change my mind", "I'll come up with something". Instead of slogans, you can draw smiling faces and attach, for example, on the refrigerator and on the desk at work.
- More traffic will come in handy. Seems simple, and few people use it. Meanwhile, a lonely bike ride or an hour in the gym is enough to raise the level of neurotransmitters in the brain responsible for a better mood and internal weather.
- If something doesn't depend on us, you have to say clearly: “I have no influence on it. Worrying won't help. "
- When something seems too difficult, even impossible to do, it's better to say to yourself: "But I have de alt with more difficult situations."
- When we feel agonized before we go to bed, you can write down your worry and decide to deal with it in the morning. A rested mind can cope with trouble better.
- If nothing is working anymore and we think of ourselves as "the queen of bad luck", better say to yourself: "I am optimistic and therefore I will be he althier!"