Egoista: who is he? Certainly not a person who will think of going to a friend who has a problem instead of watching an episode of his favorite series. The selfish will also not think of donating any amount to good charity. For the egoist, the most important thing is only one person in the world - himself. Find out who the egoist is, how you can get to know him, and find out how the egoist works at work and whether it is possible to build a happy relationship with a person of this nature.

Contents:

  1. Egoista: who is he?
  2. Egoist: where does selfishness come from?
  3. Egoist at work
  4. Egoista in a relationship

Egoista- this term comes from one of the distinguished features of human character - we are talking about egoism here. This word is derived from the Latin "ego", which means "I". Theoretically, it may seem that everyone knows who the egoist is - but is it really so?

For example, self-centeredness can be mentioned here - this term is often used interchangeably with selfishness, but it actually means something else. So what are egoists really characterized by?

Egoista: who is he?

It can be said that one word dominates the life of an egoist: me. When one's existence is saturated with selfishness, then the welfare and needs of other people have absolutely no meaning. The egoist cares only about himself - the most important for him are his benefits, the fulfillment of his dreams and desires, and at the same time he does not pay attention to whether other people are not suffering when he realizes his goals.

In a situation where the egoist is faced with a choice - to get the desired thing but hurt someone else or lose it, but not negatively affect others - he will not hesitate. He will choose himself. Egotists do not reflect on various generally recognized value systems and rules of social life - they are guided only by those principles that they themselves deem appropriate.

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Egoist: where does selfishness come from?

In fact, it can be said that selfishness is completely natural. At lastsometimes we all have to be selfish - that's just he althy! For example, a young mother who is busy at home all day, must be able to say stop from time to time. For the sake of balance, such a woman sometimes has to refuse her child to play together or not to prepare a three-course dinner: she simply has to find a few moments just for herself.

This type of "he althy" selfishness can bring very positive effects - after all, relaxation allows not only to rest, but also has an exceptionally good effect on the he alth of the human body. Some people, however, are even extreme egotists - what is contributing to this situation, however, is not really known.

It is possible that we have a certain tendency towards selfishness encoded in our genes. There is also the possibility that people become selfish because of various abnormalities in the parental period of upbringing. What, however, is the direct cause of the fact that someone is just an egoist, and not, for example, an altruist - this is not known at present.

Egoist at work

In a professional environment, functioning with an egoist is definitely not easy. When carrying out a joint project with him, it is hard to count on any help from him - the egoist will try to stand out, show that his participation in the task was the key and most important, without thinking about what effect it would have for the rest of the team.

Even the specter that colleagues may lose a bonus due to their behavior, for example, will not be a sufficient argument for the egoist to change his behavior. Then, when someone needs some help - e.g. for personal reasons, he will look for a replacement when he would be on duty at work - an egoistic person, if it does not suit him and he does not see potential benefits for himself - he will definitely not get it. helping hand.

But can an egoist be a good worker at all? Yes and no. We are talking here, for example, about practicing the profession of a direct seller. For an employer in such a situation, the egoist may be ideal - knowing that his salary depends on sales results, such an unscrupulous employee will do everything to sell as much of his product as possible. Such behavior does not have to be beneficial for the consumer - even if older people can buy things that they absolutely do not need, thereby losing all their accumulated savings, often for a long time.

Egoista in a relationship

We spend several hours a day at work, so there comes a point when the egoist at work disappears from our sight. It happens, however,that we meet selfishness within our own four walls - some people are in a relationship with the selfish. Such a life cannot be called easy.

A partner who is selfish and who does not like her partner's friends, will definitely not be able to meet them - even when she knows that her loved one cares about it. The egoist partner, in turn, will not let go of the match broadcast, even if his partner will visit a doctor at the same time and would like the man to accompany her during it.

Egoism in a relationship basically affects all its dimensions, including sexual activity. The selfish will not wonder if a woman has reached orgasm, the selfish will not analyze if her man's needs are being met. Selfish people are only interested in their needs - whether their loved one is satisfied does not bother them at all. So some questions may arise here: can the egoist in a relationship function at all and can he really love?

There are simply no unambiguous answers to these questions. Often people - even for many years - are dominated by an egoistic partner, and at the same time, even though they feel it extremely painfully, they still remain in such relationships. The fact that someone is selfish does not necessarily completely eliminate the chances of living with him, but the important thing here is how he responds to requests for change. An open, very honest conversation can really be invaluable: you need to draw the egoist's attention to which of his / her behaviors are simply unacceptable.

It happens that - especially when both partners have feelings for each other - the egoist starts working on himself and tries to modify his actions. Sometimes, however, he remains completely deaf to the requests addressed to him, in the relationship the selfishness of one of the parties is constantly noticeable, and only the goals and plans of the egoist are still in the first place. It's not really worth being in such a relationship - after all, the relationship is supposed to give a sense of security and be beneficial for both, not only for one person.

Worth knowing

Egoism: does it heal?

Selfishness as a character trait is not really treated. However, the problems that are associated with selfishness may already be treated, as it may be one of the manifestations of some personality disorders, such as, for example, narcissistic personality. In such a case, psychotherapy may lead to the elimination of the selfish behavior of a given person, but the therapy is multidirectional and aims to improve the general functioning of the patient, not onlygetting rid of his selfishness.

About the authorBow. Tomasz NęckiA graduate of medicine at the Medical University of Poznań. An admirer of the Polish sea (most willingly strolling along its shores with headphones in his ears), cats and books. In working with patients, he focuses on always listening to them and spending as much time as they need.

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Psychology