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When a teenager becomes a woman, she doesn't always understand what changes are taking place in her body. So that puberty does not cause surprises for her, prepare her to meet femininity. Tell about the first menstruation, give sanitary napkins and don't ignore her questions and doubts.
The periodadolescenceis special in every girl's life. It is then that everything that makes up her femininity develops. The changes that take place in the appearance of an adolescent girl make her become more and more interested in her body. But on the other hand, they can also be a source of great stress, especially if she is not prepared for them. Therefore, do not wait for the Internet or your daughter's friends to help you, but talk to her in advance about the metamorphosis that awaits her soon. It depends largely on you whetherteenagerwill be able to perceive and cultivate the advantages of her femininity.
Growing up - important conversation
Puberty is a slow process - a girl doesn't become a woman overnight. As he grows up and develops, he begins to get to know his body. She may feel anxious and ask you "strange" questions. However, do not underestimate them, because it is a sign that it is worth talking to her about the changes that occur during puberty, menstruation and fertility. Such a conversation is not only the transfer of knowledge about physiology, but also influences the perception of menstruation throughout life, shaping a specific attitude towards gender, and indicates the correct behavior patterns of a woman and a man. Discovering facts and talking about your feelings also allow you to prepare together for your daughter's puberty and also bring you very close. If you are a guide for her, a source of knowledge and support, you will gain her trust, and this will pay off in the future.Important
Celebrate it with two
When your daughter gets her first period, make that day special for her. Menstruation is the beginning of maturity, so it's worth celebrating. But don't include her siblings in it, as that would embarrass her. Celebrate the advent of her femininity only for the two of you. For example, you can buy your daughter a beautiful rose, a sweet gift, a nice pantie, or send an e-mail with greetings. Thanks to this, the girl will feel special, beautiful and loved.
For your daughterhelp in this difficult period may prove invaluable. Because an adolescent girl can feel lost and lonely, with no one to talk to about difficult topics. Therefore, you need to find time to listen to her, clarify incomprehensible matters. This way you will help her feel more confident in a new, yet unknown stage of life and build a good relationship with her daughter.
How to talk to a teenager about their first period?
Sometimes you have to think of opportunities for conversation, but most often they are suggested by everyday situations. The daughter may be interested, for example, in your sanitary napkins or tampons. This is a good time to tell her aboutmenses- no matter how old she is. Shopping can also be a pretext for the conversation, especially when you choose a bathing suit, the first bra.
Conversation about puberty does not have to be difficult and awkward for both parties. Its course is largely up to you. Therefore, make sure that the atmosphere is nice and that you can talk freely. If you find that the girl is ashamed, dare her. How do you do it?
Tell your daughter about your puberty - about when you noticed that something was changing in your body when you had your first period, and how you felt then. This way the girl will understand that this is the next stage in every woman's life. He will also feel a closer connection with you - because you've been through the same, you know how it is. Or maybe you have an anecdote about your maturation up your sleeve? Tell her - laughter will relieve the tension.
Explain to your daughter that from the moment her menstruation starts, she will become a woman ( although she will still feel like a baby), and this will allow her to have children in the future. When she gets older, you will come back to this topic with her about contraception.
During the conversation, be open to her questions and doubts. Don't pretend to be a lecturer, but be natural. By talking honestly, the girl will feel more comfortable, and over time, her anxiety about puberty and menstruation will surely pass.
Let your daughter read:
You are probably wondering why you have your period. Thanks to it, you will be able to become a mother in the future - your body is preparing for it now. You should be pleased with the onset of menstruation, because it is a sign that you are developing properly. Often, after the first menstrual period, the next menstrual period is not a long time or the bleeding is irregular. In general, after 1-2 years, menstruation returns to normal and then occurs every 25-35 days (this is the menstrual cycle - it is counted from the first day of menstruation to the day before the next bleeding), and lasts an average of 5 days. When you start to menstruate, write down the days in your calendarperiod - it will come in handy during a visit to the gynecologist.
Pain free period
Ailments (abdominal pain, cramps, headaches, nausea) usually appear on the first day of menstruation and, although they do not bother too long, can be quite bad. The best way to overcome them is to sleep ( although you don't always manage to fall asleep) or at least a little relaxation. Before that, you can take No-Spa (it has a relaxing effect) or drink herbal tea (e.g. lemon balm). You can also indulge in your favorite activities - they will allow you to relax and forget about any ailments. Light relaxation exercises will do the same. Relief will also bring warm compresses on the abdomen or a gentle massage of the lower abdomen. During difficult days, it is also worth changing your diet - avoiding bloating, s alty, spicy, hard-to-digest foods that weigh on your already sore stomach, and strong tea, cola (caffeine increases uterine contractions) or carbonated drinks.
Puberty - when is your first period?
The first period (menarche) usually occurs between the ages of 10 and 16 (on average, ages 11-12). Therefore, a 10-year-old girl should already know a bit about menstruation so that she will not be surprised when she gets one. So be alert to changes in her body that will "tell" you that it's close. The moment of menarche can be more closely defined by observing, for example, breast development - girls usually start menstruating about 2 years after the first signs of breast enlargement (including itching, sensitivity to touch). But there are other changes too - there is hair on the armpits, pubic hair and vaginal discharge. Her marks on her underwear can usually be seen a few months before her first period.
If your daughter is already "the right" age, you can give her some sanitary napkins to put in a backpack or purse - just in case. And be sure to pack her a package when she is going away for a long time, e.g. on a summer camp. Thanks to this, she will know how to deal with an "emergency" situation. If she was surprised by her period, she might feel terrified that something bad was happening to her.