Seduction and flirting can be learned. How is it possible that some women are surrounded by admirers and spend other evenings alone? Why do unattractive men have beautiful wives? The art of seduction is the key to the puzzle. Find out why some people are considered attractive and others are not, and how you can change that. Learn the secrets of the school of seduction.

Men hunt women, but they fish - they put nets down, put a hook on the rod. And they decide who they want to spend intimate moments with. When 44-year-old Elżbieta Zawistowska from Pruszków enters the party, all men's eyes turn to her. Elizabeth gives away smiles, plays with her long hair. He wears a tight-fitting turtleneck that exposes his breasts. - It does not reveal anything, but it stimulates the imagination of men - explains Lech Dębski, a psychiatrist, director of the Pomeranian Institute of Neurolinguistics, which has been conducting seduction courses for six years. If you look at Elizabeth, she is not a beauty at all: a few kilograms overweight, a big nose, a burn scar on her neck. But a woman knows how to distract from the shortcomings of beauty: she wears slimming black, paints her eyes heavily so that they are the most important detail of her face, not her nose, she puts on shiny earrings. She dyes her hair a straw color, because men prefer blondes. She is a master of seduction: sensuality signals subtly.

Most women were told in childhood that modesty and humility were their virtues. As adults, they cannot emphasize their values. - After all, it is my interior that is important, and not my physicality - is outraged by 30-year-old Joanna, a businesswoman in an exposed position. "A man should love me for my intelligence," he says. So why did she come to seduction school? - I want to finally start a family, and somehow I can't meet this one - he smiles sadly.

Seduction school - men are visual learners

Men register their appearance, facial expression, and especially the eyes at first; they quickly grasp whether the gaze is mischievous or mysterious, sad or defiant. They do not pay attention to "gray mice", but appreciate the naturalness of women.

Exaggerated makeup is a misunderstanding, and exposing as much of the naked body as possible either scares off or provokes vulgar expression of desires. A woman doesn't have to remind youPamela Anderson. On the contrary - men are often afraid of beautiful women, especially when they themselves do not look like Adonis. What counts is the overall impression and the proportional build. Anthropologists speak of a universal type of attractive woman whose figure resembles an hourglass. Being overweight doesn't matter! It can be overcome with a smile, tone of voice and subtlety in behavior, which suggests that the woman is a bit of a princess from a fairy tale. It should radiate warmth and exude an aura of mystery around it.

A man is a conqueror, he loves to feel like a hero, a knight riding up a glass mountain. But you also mustn't overdo it with too much independence. He must hope that his efforts will not be in vain. Therefore, he will appreciate a woman who is honest, open, courageous and humorous, reacting to harassment.

School of seduction - women appreciate strength

A woman has two natures: the first, which tells her to be responsible for the house and children, and the second - predatory, passionate. Many women dream of a man freeing them from conventions and inhibitions. A woman is attracted to a man by strength, power, and position. The we althy, even the hideously ugly ones, have a chance. But a sophisticated seducer can have an empty wallet, if he is not insecure and gives him a sense of security.

A woman sometimes romances with someone who at first annoyed her with his arrogant manner, even impudence, but this made her subconsciously believe that she can take care of her family. For women, what counts is courage, prudence and analytical thinking of a partner. This is atavism: by entering into a relationship with an individual of the opposite sex, a woman programs herself to establish a nest, strives to find a partner for life (the man wants to raise his self-esteem or have a bed partner). She wants to be cared for, so she prefers well-built men, even overweight, with large hands and feet, massive facial features, fleshy lips, often bald or balding (a sign of high levels of testosterone - a male hormone). Women are often affected by an intense scent (not toilet water) and a hard-eyed look. And if it turns out that this tough, rough-mannered gentleman is gentle and gallant on a date and has a sense of humor, women fall into his trap like flies. There is no better aphrodisiac than strength combined with delicacy.

School of seduction - learn to flirt

- These tomatoes look as if the Tuscan sun is being viewed in them - said 28-year-old Małgorzata Młodzianowska to a handsome man in a supermarket. She looked deep into his eyes, blinked, then looked away and started packing the vegetables in the foil.handbags. It was enough. The man came up and asked, "Do you really have such blue eyes?" (Gosia wears contact lenses in this intense color). He offered to help her carry the basket around the store, then invited her for a coffee to talk about Italy. Today, Robert is firmly convinced that he was the one who picked up Gosia.

Experts point out that the most exciting thing is to discover secrets gradually. - It is worth using strategic understatements - advises the adepts of the art of seduction Jakub Tarnowski, psychologist and sociologist, interpersonal communication trainer. - Show interest in his job or passion. Don't chat about yourself all the time. And when you are speaking, be silent at the appropriate times. Look at him significantly in the eyes. Remember about small gestures and facial expressions. And also about a pinch of audacity.

Worth knowing

In flirting - this enchanting game between two people - words matter. Especially their tone. Paul Cezanne, a French painter, one rainy day in a Parisian street asked an attractive girl: - Can I cover you with my umbrella? "Thank you," she replied, provoked, "but I have my own." "Ah, that's a small thing," continued the seducer. - There is nothing to prevent us from closing your umbrella, right?

School of seduction: how to get a woman?

- Men make more mistakes in seduction than women. They are clumsy and then they are surprised that the chosen one does not want to make a second appointment. Besides, they are usually associated with a random person who chose them for himself - claims Lech Dębski. So how do you seduce a woman? It's best to just be her physical type, and then the chemistry will do the trick. It's good to have fame, power and money. - But if all of this is missing (and this is the case in most cases) - says Dębski - you have to learn to speak in such a way as to ignite your senses. It is hard for the gentlemen on the course to believe it, but it is true. One lawyer (moderately attractive, but very well paid) was shy. When he liked a woman, he sweated and sputtered in a high-pitched voice. Today he is a happy partner of a model twice his age. - It happens that the course of a racked man makes a conqueror not only in the field of emotions, but also in a professional one - adds the instructor.

School of seduction: Bond attitude works

On the course, the gentlemen learn how to be a pirate, a bad boy. "We call it the James Bond attitude," the expert laughs. No serenades under the balcony; not the way! For a woman to trust a man and allow him to have closer contacts, he must be gallant, but very self-confident, with a sense of humor and a bit mysterious. This is the best combination of features. There are also a few technical gimmicks you cantrain: always keep your body posture upright, move decisively, smile. Remember also about the strengths and the so-called open gestures (they inspire confidence). Pay attention to your hands - don't clench them into a fist, because that means lack of self-control. Women feel good in the company of calm and internally ordered men. Look into the eyes boldly, but not intrusively. The aforementioned hardness has nothing to do with vulgarity and rudeness (as some men mistakenly believe).

You must do it
  • If a woman casually twirls a strand of hair and discreetly looks at you, then suddenly looks away and looks into space, this is a signal: I'm interested in you! When she touches her wardrobe or straightens her hair, it's a sign: come closer.
  • When you squeeze her hand, look down first, then look deep into her eyes and then release her hand.
  • Whispering straight in your ear when you dance is extremely erotic, even if you are not dull.
  • When you meet an interesting person at a picnic, try to "draw their gaze" and then say anything, "fine weather" or "what time?". You must do this within three seconds.
  • If you want to charm someone, be silent for a moment, then suddenly smile and look into your eyes. She (he) will feel a shiver of anxiety and excitement. He will probably ask, "What's going on?" Then make a compliment or a nice remark about your meeting.
  • When she (he) casually touches your hand or clothes, it is a sign that you can go further than the conversation.

Glasses of seduction: elegant pirate

Women pay attention to their hands and shoes and follow the rules of hygiene (the smell of sweat, bad breath, dirt behind nails, holes in socks disqualify). Visit the hairdresser, take care of your complexion, sprinkle yourself with good toilet water in moderation. But don't wear a three-piece suit, white shirt, and tie on a date because it's not a business negotiation. Better put on a sports jacket and classic t-shirt.

The ability to behave elegantly in any situation is highly valued by women. Before inviting her to the car, open the door on her side. Discreetly settle your restaurant bills. Don't flaunt your we alth, but also don't argue with the waiter. Look at her eyes. Every now and then, give her a compliment intended only for her: praise her outfit, earrings (she dressed to please you).

In no case say: "your eyes are like stars". Work on your voice: women like low timbre and articulate words clearly. Do not talk about the hardships of life, work, ex-wife, financial troubles. Focus on the nice aspects of life.Talk about dreams, passions, spread crazy visions in front of her. "What if I took you to a selected corner of the world for a week?" - such a question will surely arouse her imagination. Good luck!

School of seduction: where to cast the net

You can seduce anywhere - says the specialist - but the worst for it are a disco or a night club. There, the women carry their defensive shields high (they don't want to be easy prey), and the men turn into cocksfoot cocks. This is how the sight of the dancing mass of female bodies acts on them. Therefore, it is better to seduce someone at work, on the course, on the train, while shopping or even on the street.

Where to go for help

Thank you to the experts from the websites: www.szkolauwodzi.pl and www.nlp.civ.pl I used Clifford Bishop's book "Sex - ritual and taboo".

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