Nothing good lasts forever, even the strongest desire fades away with time. How to re-ignite the senses? What to do to enjoy satisfying sex in a long-term relationship?

Each of us has different sexual needs, and since there are great differences in temperament, it is not worth looking for norms and comparing each other. There is no such thing as a moderatelibido(sex drive) or a typical level of sexual activity.

Both high and low needs are normal, and interestingly, libido is not a constant value - it changes with age and also depends on several factors. This is why the appetite forsexincreases and decreases periodically.

Unfortunately, even in a successful relationshipdesire"diverges" in two different directions, becoming the cause of conflicts and mutual accusations. So if something in your relationship has changed and one thing wants to make love more often, don't get too stressed by the situation. First, try to understand why you are not as active as you used to be, and then start to counteract it.

Desire - mental state and condition

How you feel has a huge impact on the strength of your sex drive. During summer vacations or holidays, when you are refreshed, relaxed, you do not think about work, you make love much more often.

Research proves that fatigue and stress inhibit desire. So don't be surprised that your partner's desire for sex diminishes when he has personal problems or works from morning until late at night.

Depression, malaise, illness also weaken the libido. It is interesting that in women the appetite for sex also changes during the menstrual cycle - it usually weakens during menstruation (as does the general condition) and grows around ovulation …

Desire - age also matters

Mother nature arranged it in such a way that the older a man, the less able he is. This principle also applies to the intimate sphere. Twenty-year-olds do not have a problem with drive, because it spreads their youth, and 30-year-olds also do not complain about the lack of desire - they are already aware of their own sensations, they can enjoy sex and take full advantage of the wells of pleasure.

In some people, the heat of the senses slightly weakens in their forties, in most of them in their fifties, sixties … Can you help it? Yes, and it doesn't necessarily have tobe Viagra. In old age, the desire for sex can be significantly restored by taking care of he alth and physical condition through proper nutrition, exercise, and sport. It really works!

Routine is also an enemy of desire in a long-term relationship. If you love each other the same way for many years, don't be surprised that you eventually stop wanting. So don't be afraid to introduce something new and exciting to your bedroom - erotic movies, sex shop gadgets, massage for two are not only for young people! Successful sex is a great force in life - so it's worth trying.

Lust - the relationship with your partner is important

Did you notice a certain pattern? Sexual temperament always reaches its highest level in the early stages of a relationship. This is how love works!

In the body of a person in love, hormones are raging and a person could make love for hours. After a night of madness, you go to work, come back and you are ready for erotic experiences again …

However, if you would continue in such madness forever, you would not have enough strength. Therefore, nature made sure that the enthusiasm cooled down over time. Feelings become less violent, the urge to have sex comes every few days. And while sex is no longer a sensory explosion, it can still be great.

But sometimes it is different - the desire ebbs away and does not come back. Because your partner ceases to like you or your relationships are creeping into resentment, anger, regret. That is why it is so important to take care of your appearance, the ability to mute mutual traumas and everyday care for good relations with your partner.

Find out how to increase libido

Important

The processes related to menopause or andropause can weaken the libido, but this can be delayed with the help of a doctor. You also have to go to him when the reason for the lack of drive is hormonal disorders, depression or some chronic disease. Sometimes the reason is the medications you are taking, so ask your doctor if you can replace them with other medications, or at least change their dosage.

It's not true that …

… desire is an instinct that must necessarily be satisfied. After all, we are human and we put ourselves above other earthly beings. And our advantage over them is, among others on the fact that we can control our desires … love and lust are always related. Many people take sex as a pleasure in itself and make love to someone they find exclusively attractive. It even happens that someone who dislikes is physically attractive … a man who does not relieve his desire is exposed to prolonged pain. In a state of high excitement, a man may feel some pressure in his crotch acutely, nobut it is a pain. Such tension, if not relieved, soon disappears spontaneously …. the more a man wants a woman, the greater his sexual performance. And sometimes it is just the opposite - the fascination with a woman can be so overwhelming that it makes a man momentarily powerless. The desire to please his loved one paralyzes him.

You must do it

Monotony is the great enemy of desire. Intimate life should be diversified, and not only when you are 20-30 years old.

  • Take a shower or a foam bath together (a glass of wine is also a good idea).
  • If you usually make love in the dark, go crazy during the day.
  • Not only the bed is a place for love. Have you ever tried to make love on the carpet or in the vicinity of a large mirror?
  • Read an erotic novel aloud, tell your fantasies, come up with spicy scenarios - there's nothing wrong with that!
  • Use feathers, silk, ice for caresses - so that the sensations are as varied as possible.

"Zdrowie" monthly

Category:

Art of love