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We have a problem with our son, who will be 4 years old in 2 months. So far, he has not learned to take care of his physiological needs to the toilet, he does it sporadically, when we take care of him, very rarely himself, usually in pants, long ago. He has tantrums every day, the smallest thing can make him angry, he doesn't listen to us, he would only like to do what he wants, it is difficult for him to adapt to the rules, e.g. the rules of the day, brushing his teeth, bathing, etc. He goes to kindergarten from September for 4 hours a day, from there he comes in clean shorts, and at home he already makes pants. From birth, the son was quite a difficult, tearful and unobtrusive child. I could describe this for a long time, but it is probably impossible to settle such a matter via the Internet, we are considering visiting a psychologist, but I do not know if a psychologist will help us in this situation or is it because he has such a character or such behavior symptom of some disease that requires treatment from another doctor.
Thank you for your letter. Indeed, such a matter cannot be precisely discussed on the Internet. In order to make a complete diagnosis, both parents need a visit to a psychologist - prenatal interviewing, information about the parents' he alth, temperament, home atmosphere and such issues. Later, it is necessary to observe the child, which is part of the psychological examination. Therefore, I urge you to visit a child psychologist very quickly.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Bohdan BielskiPsychologist, specialist with 30 years of experience, trainer of psychosocial skills, expert psychologist of the District Court in Warsaw.
Main areas of activity:mediation services, family counseling, care for a person in a crisis situation, manager training.
First of all, it focuses on building good relationships based on understanding and respect. He undertook numerous crisis interventions and took care of people in a deep crisis.
He lectured in forensic psychology at the Faculty of Psychology of SWPS in Warsaw, at the University of Warsaw and the University of Zielona Góra.
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