We have recently decided to have intercourse for the first time in our lives. I had very little pleasure. I couldn't bring myself to orgasm in any way, I tried for a long time, unfortunately I couldn't. She excites me a lot, we were set for a great experience. It seems to me that my partner did not feel anything special, I will not mention the orgasm. I feel very silly about that. Is our problem with inexperience?
Hello! The first time it is different, not always like in movies or in books. Please don't worry, the further the better. You both learn each other and sex. One of the most common reasons for this is the lack of, or inadequate, contraception. Absolutely "no" to the so-called intermittent intercourse, natural methods such as a calendar, etc. Sometimes a condom is also very disturbing. And then the best solution is contraception on the part of the girl (pills, spiral). This is a really important aspect of successful sex. Regards.
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Beata CiesielskaA specialist sexologist, expert witness. member of the European and Polish Society of Sexual Medicine, Polish Society of Andrology, Association for Good Clinical Research Practice. Admissions at a private office in Łódź (by appointment, tel. 0501 019 578).
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