Friendship is a relationship that goes through different phases in our life and is put to different tests. That's why you wouldn't call every super girlfriend a friend - even after years of close acquaintance. What is true friendship between women?
Friendshipis not subject to the passage of time. And it does not depend on the case at all. We choose our friends ourselves - and consciously. To be close to another person, you need to know their strengths and weaknesses. And accept! However, to do this, you also need to give something of yourself: open up to it. And who can talk about feelings the most beautifully? Of course women! And who will best understand a woman? Who will listen to her and be complained? Only the second woman!
There is no distinction between male and female friendship. There is also no difference in the way grandparents or their grandchildren are friends. It also doesn't matter how big the age difference separates the friends. In each of these cases, the most important thing is the basis on which the newknowledge .
What is true friendship
Friendship comes from mutual attraction and sympathy. It is based on openness,honesty , trust and mutual respect. A friend must be an empathetic person. He must be able to look at the world not only from his own perspective, but also through the eyes of a friend. Responsibility for the other person and the ability to forgive are also important. True friendship is based not only on mutual acceptance and understanding, but above all on the willingness to listen to the other person, the willingness to learn something new about him. But also to share your thoughts, worries and dreams with her. In short, it can be said that friendship is the joy of spending time together without feeling wasted.
Although the general principles of friendship are similar, the relationship of friends is completely different when they are both male and female.
Friendship - like love - is not given once and for all. If we don't take care of it, it will fall apart. It requires dedication of time, but also attention, patience and … understanding for your friend's faults.
Differences between female and male friendship
Women often don't have to ask anything to know exactly how they feel and what they need. Most of the time, nothey expect specific advice from each other - much more important for them is the opportunity to talk about their troubles, to organize their feelings. For women, the most important thing is experiencing together, sharing joys and sorrows. There is a strong need in them to be heard. And this is the main difference between male and female friendship. Men rarely talk about their problems. If anything, they expect a specific solution from their friend - because they want to implement it immediately. Male friendship is also more task-oriented, it is usually time spent together, some kind of hobby. Women definitely prefer chatting over coffee and cookies. Are any of these types of friendships better? Not! It just results from different needs and a different nature.
Gentlemen may stay silent for weeks and then call as if nothing had happened and arrange a beer. Women need more frequent meetings, or at least a phone call. And they talk about everything. Due to the fact that they exchange views with each other on any topic, they are forced to think over many things and form an opinion. Therefore, they constantly learn something new about themselves, and knowledge develops and flourishes. They don't have to hide from themselves what they want to hide from their loved one. My friend knows best what we need the most and will save us from any trouble.
Friendship has a positive effect on our he alth
There are usually five characteristics of friendship: voluntariness, equality of position, mutual help, joint activity, trust, and emotional support. There are many problems, in particular, with maintaining equal positions in friendship. We tend to play certain roles in it, e.g. someone weaker who constantly needs help, or on the contrary - an all-knowing sage who has a recipe for every problem.
Help can also be problematic. If you get something, you should give it to someone. However, it is not about making gifts, but about helping in every important matter - no matter how big or small. Without the possibility of "paying", a sense of dependence or a sense of debt towards a friend is born, and this in turn causes a disturbance in the relationship in friendship - after all, no one likes to be someone else's debtor!
These aren't the only perks of friendship. There is more and more evidence that having friends has a positive effect on our … he alth! According to the latest research, people with friends receive much more feedback about their he alth, for example confirming their fears ("But you lost weight!", "You are so pale today", "You have low blood pressure?), Which may lead to a faster visit to doctor. These people come into a doctor at an earlier stage in the development of the disease than single people, for whom no one has cared for.
Friendship serves he alth on many levels: people with friends break addictions more easily, but return to them less often, use seat belts more often, make a decision to lose weight easier, even have greater body immunity - the support of their relatives reduces the level of stress that weakens the immune system.
What to do to make your friendship last a lifetime
If you are convinced that nothing and no one can destroy your friendship, you are very wrong.
Your friend will not always have the strength and desire to meet you. She will not always be open and joyful - the day will come when she will start complaining about the whole world in front of you. If such a day happens once in a while, you will have no problem with it - after all, sometimes your mood is even worse. What if a friend spouts her regrets to you every time? How long can you take it? If she has just broken up with her fiancé, you will certainly let her cry, comfort you and even advise her on what to do. You will patiently discuss her life scenario with her. But if she's calling you every night and sobbing into the phone, then after a month you can get fed up and decide to limit your contact with her.
So be prepared not only for good times but also for bad times. Don't assume: if a friendship is strong, it will survive the most dangerous storm. After all, there are situations in which we begin to drift apart imperceptibly. So you need to be vigilant - as soon as you notice that your relationships are starting to break down, take action.
In difficult times, stay close to your friend or let her help you - at least with a good word or gesture. A friend must be like a wall to lean on. Contrary to appearances, extreme situations bring people closer. This is a test of their courage, selflessness and care - it is no coincidence that it is said that you make true friends in poverty. If you are really friends, you will have no doubts about what to do - you can sense what reaction your friend expects from you. If this is the first time you find yourself in a difficult situation, it is best to … use your intuition.