The presence of a partner in labor at the delivery room has more advantages than disadvantages, but the same rule applies here - nothing by force. The decision whether a man will accompany a woman in childbirth must be made together. Find out about a family birth.
The mere possibility of making such a decision is a great achievement. Even 15-20 years ago, future fathers in Poland were unconditionally banned from enteringdelivery room . Today the situation is completely different. In most hospitals,mancan accompany the woman togiving birth( although you often have to pay for it, this is a separate topic). In some circles, it is even fashionable or under pressure to give birth in two. However, neither fashion nor social pressure are good arguments here and this is certainly not what should be taken into account when making decisions. There are many other good reasons that must be kept in mind to encourage - but not force - a man to participate in labor.
Family childbirth - why is it worth it?
The birth of a child is a momentous event for any relationship - a new person is born. This man has two parents. A woman carries a child and all the physical toil of his birth falls on her, but after all, the man also has a significant part in his vocation. So where should he be at such a moment, if not with his wife or partner giving birth? The essence of being together is experiencing, the possibility of sharing emotions and supporting each other in difficult times. It makes a person not lonely, he feels happy. At least that is how many women understand happiness. And childbirth is a situation where a woman especially needs support and awareness that she is not alone. Common childbirth often brings partners closer and strengthens the relationship emotionally. It is edifying to be aware that in such a difficult moment they were together, they went through it together, sharing all the sensations that accompanied this experience: pain, fear, uncertainty, and finally joy.
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Do not force yourself to have a family childbirth
There are, however, marriages that have a fairly traditional division of roles, and they both feel good about it. Then it's probably better not to experiment. However, it is always worth talking and making a decision that coincides with the beliefs of both of them,rejecting fashion or what friends say about it. both of them, rejecting fashion or what their friends say about it.
Family childbirth - bond with the baby
Fathers who accompanied their wife during the birth often have a very warm, good relationship with their baby from the very beginning. The moment when a man sees his own child for the first time evokes great emotion - even the toughest tough guys often have tears in their eyes. This experience will remain in their memory forever and may pay off even years later. A dad who welcomed his son or daughter to the delivery room is usually more involved in caring for the baby from the very beginning and has a strong emotional bond with him from the very first moment.
Specific help
Many women, after giving birth together, admit how helpful their partner was also for purely practical reasons, because, for example, he massaged his back during contractions, helped to change position, supported during pressure, helped to breathe properly, or even applied compresses or moistened mouth. The feeling of security is also extremely important for the mother in labor. Unfortunately, it still happens in Polish hospitals that the staff treat a woman in labor harshly or even rudely. Self-centered, in pain, she is therefore completely helpless. The presence of a man changes a lot - he becomes the spokesman of his woman, he makes sure that her will and rights are not ignored. It is even so - or at least this is what some ladies believe - that thanks to the man's decisive attitude, the doctor makes a decision faster, for example, about a caesarean section.
Just be
Not every man is predisposed to be actively involved in helping the woman in labor. But that shouldn't put him off, because the most important thing for most women is that he should be there. It is good if he can and feels able to help, but it is not necessary at all. It is enough for him to be there - close, beloved, supportive. His presence, tender touch and reassuring words are very much for the woman in labor. The research shows that thanks to this, contractions are felt less painfully, the duration of labor is shorter and there is much less medical interference in its course.
You must do itWhen there are difficult times
- If you are sensitive to the sight of blood, assist your partner by sitting or standing next to her head - focus on her face, hold her hand or support her back from behind, say kind, uplifting words.
- When labor is prolonged, with an opening of about 5 cm, eat something, preferably a snack taken from home - lowering blood sugar is the main cause of fainting.
- Don't feel sorry for yourself -think that the inconvenience and unpleasantness you endure cannot even be compared to what a woman in labor is going through.
- If the emotions and impressions are too strong, remember that you can always leave the delivery room.
Concerns
They arise primarily from the uncertainty of how a man will react to the physiology of childbirth. Will he pass out? Or will it discourage him from having sex? Such situations do happen, but - especially these long-term consequences - they occur sporadically. It certainly does not threaten an emotionally mature man who shares a strong affection with a woman. Because isn't the entire sexual sphere related to the acceptance of the partner's body, including his physiology? Also there is mucus, blood, semen. Exceeding the boundaries of intimacy in sex is one of the bonds that bind the couple more and more closely. Joint childbirth means crossing another border. But for this you need maturity, and not all, especially young men, have managed to achieve it. You need to know your partner well in order to be able to judge how he will react. Also, the fear of passing out is usually exaggerated, because there is actually not so much blood and other secretions during childbirth. Some men find it harder to see their wife suffer and feel helpless in the face of the pain.
Emergency exit
If, for any of the reasons mentioned above, a man feels unwell, he should know that he can always go out into the corridor to cool down. Most of the strong impressions are delivered only during the pushing phase, and the delivery lasts much longer, even several hours. If a woman feels male support throughout the first period, she will surely forgive the fact that her partner did not survive until the end. What he gave her before was a lot. It may also happen that the woman does not tolerate the presence of a man and wants him to leave. You also have to be prepared for this, because you cannot predict your own reactions. Future dad! If your partner would like you to accompany her, and you are reluctant, know that no one will keep you there by force - in a difficult situation, you can leave the room. But by expressing your readiness to participate in labor, you will show the woman that you are close and loved.
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