A newborn a few days old is already quite hardy, but not enough to endure the hordes of guests. Also, a young mother who is freshly born is not likely to be served by frequent and long visits from family and friends. So, invite only the closest people to start with, under certain conditions.

The first days after the arrivalof the childfrom the hospital is the time dedicated exclusively to you - new parents and your treasure. The child's dad should then take a week off and take care of the family so that the partner andnewbornregain strength and recover. This atmosphere of peace and security during the first 3-4 days of staying at home should not be disturbed by any outsider. But the immediate family, especially the newly minted grandparents, will of course want to meet a new family member as soon as possible. Try to reconcile it somehow. What do you need to remember to organize your visit wellvisit ?

The right time to visit your newborn baby

First of all, you should consider the best interests of the child. For him, it would be best to wait a few weeks before visiting. But if the toddler is he althy and has no problems with it, you can invite people from the closest family on the 4th - 5th day of stay at home. But be careful, only when the new mom wants it too and is in good shape. Because women feel different then. Some are happy and full of energy, they want to quickly share their joy with their loved ones: mother, sister, maybe a friend. They want to tell about their birth, show the baby. They even need it. Other women, on the other hand, may be embarrassed (e.g. by the presence of their in-laws or distant relatives), especially when they feel bad, have perineal pain, have breast problems or baby blues. So only invite people you really want to see. Don't be afraid to say no. If someone insists that they want to see the baby anymore and you don't like the idea, say that the visit has been forbidden by the doctor.

First visits to a newborn

  • Before the guests come, make sure everyone is well. A newborn is born with a very immature immune system. It is especially sensitive to viral infections. Even a runny nose, cough or purulent changes on the skin can harm it, not to mention the flu. So take the rule that a person with an infection has no rightto cross the threshold of your home. Especially limit the visits of children attending kindergarten. Childhood diseases have different incubation periods and an apparently he althy baby may already be a virus carrier.
  • Plan your visits in the early afternoon hours. By late afternoon or evening you and your baby may be tired. Inform the family to announce all their visits. Then you can prepare for them, e.g. change clothes, feed your baby or bathe your baby.
  • When the guests arrive, ask them to wash their hands. Even if they do not take the child in their arms, they will probably want to at least touch his hand, stroke his cheek or head. Only let someone closest to you, e.g. your mother or another grandmother, take the baby in your arms. There is no reason why the whole family should pass a child from hand to hand like a mascot. No guest should kiss a toddler, because even a he althy person is a carrier of various bacteria (mainly in the nose and throat).
  • It is best to pick up the baby by yourself, bring it to the living room for a few minutes, and then take it to the crib in the bedroom. The baby can also just lie in his crib, guests they will see them there (for a while!) and then go to another room.
  • Conversations should not be loud. Noisy, raised voices may disturb or wake your baby up when he is asleep. At the beginning, invite no more than 2-3 people at a time. The more guests, the greater the buzz and confusion.
  • The visit should not be long, it may not exceed 1 - 1.5 hours.
Important

Dad honors the master of the house

During this period, both the baby and the mother are under special protection. So, when the guests come, the main duties related to taking care of them rest with the dad - he makes tea, coffee, serves cake. A freshly baked mother has other things on her mind - she must be ready at any moment to feed the toddler or go to the bathroom. Besides, such a change of roles will certainly not hurt anyone. Mom will know that her husband cares for her and takes care of her, and dad will finally feel like a real host.

Aunts and friends visiting a newborn

When you receive visits from your immediate family, you need to think about other relatives and friends. You may want to see your closest friend as soon as possible, but everyone else should hold off visiting until the baby is firm. How do you make this known to them? Nowadays it's a good idea to send all your friends an e-mail with a picture of the baby and a short information - when he was born, how much he weighs, measured, how do you all feel?etc. And by the way, you can write in a polite and humorous way that you invite them as much as possible, but they will be welcome in 3-4 weeks, when the child is older and stronger. Such a collective e-mail will save you time, because you will not have to call everyone in turn and repeat the same thing. But of course you will not avoid phone calls, and e-mails and phone calls are now - especially for a young mother - the main ways of contacting the world.

Phones, ringtones

However, too late calls may be a problem. Young people, especially if they have no children themselves, lead a lifestyle where calling friends at 10 p.m. or 11 p.m. is completely normal. Maybe it was normal for you until recently. Now, however, when the baby has appeared, your rest and sleep are worth its weight in gold, so you must tell your friends and friends directly that you can call at the latest, e.g. at 9 p.m. You can put this information - in the form of a request - in the same collective the e-mail in which you announced the birth of your child. If the late calls keep repeating, just turn off your cameras in the evening. Also during the day, it is worth silencing the phone so that the signal does not wake the child. Too loud sounds of the doorbell or intercom can also wake your baby up or scare him. Therefore, it is good to hang a note on the door asking not to use the bell, and if it does not work - simply disconnect it from the power supply. After all, your child's peace of mind (and therefore yours) is the most important thing.

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