Are you single? Are you waiting for the one and only one? Or maybe you want to heat up the temperature in the matrimonial bedroom? Try the art of flirting. Flirting colors life, makes it more interesting and strengthens self-esteem.

It is a phenomenon that is difficult to define unequivocally. Flirting is an amazing game between two people: usually extremely interested in each other, but not always. Sometimes we flirt to build or maintain a good mood, win someone's sympathy or diversify relationships (the so-called casual flirting). Some people have the ability to flirt in their blood, others learn it with time, age, experience - when their self-esteem and thus self-confidence increase. The whole art of flirting is based mainly on the awareness of having strengths (e.g. personal charm), but also freedom, smile, distance to oneself, peace (nobody likes neurotic and aggressive people). You should also have the ability to have an engaging conversation and pay compliments (but with class) and the ability to meet the expectations of the other party while being yourself. However, to become a master in the art of flirting, you have to practice it constantly.

Flirt means looks, gestures, movements

When he sees you, that's how they write you - there is a lot of truth in this saying. During the first meeting, people judge themselves mainly by what they see through their sense of sight. When we get to know someone new or know him quite briefly, in the first seconds we unconsciously judge his character. The way we speak with our body plays the most important role in personal contacts. And thus, it can make flirting easier or more difficult for us, strengthen our attractiveness or discourage us quickly. If you want to charm someone you care about, the most important thing to remember is to maintain regular eye contact with that person. A smile and a nice expression on your face will surely break the ice.

Remember about a natural, upright posture, move boldly and vigorously, but use calm, so-called open hand and arm movements. If you want to make a good impression on the opposite sex, emphasize your figure with the right outfit. However, avoid overdoing it. Believe that eyes have the greatest power. So use them in the art of the subtleseduction. You can observe those who can operate with glances, e.g. actors who charm on the screen. Exercise the strength of your eyesight.

Worth knowing

Flirting is comparable to a game of chess: a certain movement evokes an appropriate, but not always anticipated, response from the other party.

How do I start flirting?

Try to take advantage of every favorable situation. If a handsome stranger catches your eye in a public place (shop, bar, park), don't just let him disappear. Start a subtle game of casual exchanges of glances with him. To lure him with your eyes, you should first give him a long (2-3 seconds) look. Then quickly turn your head away for a dozen or so seconds, and then direct another look at the object of your interest, this time a bit longer. Try to look him straight in the eye. Even if the first glance escaped his attention, the second one will notice you. The third should be the longest and boldest. Enrich them with the most seductive smile you can afford.

Do not be afraid that such behavior will be negatively treated - a smile usually meets a positive reaction. If you smile back, you will have a reason to start flirting with words already.

How do I conduct a conversation?

The timbre of the voice, especially the lower and deeper ones, awakens the female erotic imagination. And words play an extremely important role in seduction, because you can use them to influence others. You just have to learn to weigh them …

In flirting, the principle of "small talk" works, i.e. a smooth transition from light to more serious topics. In such a conversation, the most important thing is to present yourself as a person full of humor, freedom and distance to the surrounding reality. Both the flirting woman and the seductive man must remember about three important principles of the art of "small talk":

  • First of allthe one who asks sets the rules and establishes the rules of mutual relations. When flirting, try to ask more often and definitely less about yourself. In this simple way you will show interest in the other side, but leave a certain margin of mystery. Remember that mystery is one of the elements that, in the eyes of the opposite sex, add charm to us and make us more desirable.
  • Second , if you want to get any information from someone you are conversing with, give your feedback first (i.e. tell about yourself). So when flirting, you shouldn't answer questions with monosyllables. The other side may get the impression that you are demonstrating this waydisregard or disinterest in them. Better say something interesting about yourself, then your partner will trust you and start telling you honestly about yourself.
  • Thirdyou should let your interlocutor open up and say what's on their mind (if they feel the need to). If he is sure that you can be a great partner even in very difficult conversations, he will trust you.

… and about what?

There are topics that are forbidden and welcome (both by women and men). On your first date, don't talk about your ex-girlfriends, don't mention your problems and drama. Don't initiate talks about politics and religion. During the meeting for two, it is much better to talk about interests, hobbies, ways of spending free time, film, literature, art and nice events in life.

Flirting, however, cannot be imagined without compliments. But only the original ones make a good impression. Preferably the one that your interlocutor hears for the first time. A good compliment should be related to the actual element of beauty or character. Therefore, observe your partner beforehand. Don't believe the stereotype that men don't expect compliments. It is best if they are related to a typically male character trait (determination, fortitude, strength, etc.).

How to flirt? Pay attention to the timbre of the voice

Pay attention to the way you speak. It is one of the most important tools in the art of seduction. Work on the technique of operating the voice. Note that infantile people are perceived (often unfairly) by the environment as naive. An emotionless tone suggests a lack of commitment and enthusiasm. The monotonous manner of speaking signals uncertainty and even fear. And people with very high voices can be considered nervous. Therefore, when talking to someone interesting, try to use a voice that is pleasant to the ear (preferably lower), speak lively, melodiously, at a pace and with the strength of your voice adapted to the situation (not too fast and not too loud). Also, do not forget about the careful pronunciation and the nice Polish language. Always be interesting, smart and funny. And you will see how quickly you move from words … to actions!

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