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I've often lied to the boy I love, and I've often acted like I didn't care about him. Because of such behavior, he left me. I really want to change for him, but also for myself. I just feel like I have a problem and can't deal with these frequent lies and I also feel sorry for my boyfriend that he is suffering so much for what I do. I also have problems replying to his messages quickly.
From the question you asked, I understood that what causes you the most trouble is lying that is difficult to control. You also talk about the behavior that could indicate a lack of interest in your boyfriend.
There may be many reasons for this behavior, as well as solutions to its difficulties, unfortunately, without gathering more information, it is difficult for me to propose an appropriate method. It is worth considering what are you lying for? What does it give you? In what situations do these lies appear and to what extent do you do it without reflection? Therefore, I encourage you to consult a specialist, you can decide to talk to a psychologist or use a public helpline. It can be quite difficult to deal with this problem effectively without being able to talk about it.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Patrycja Szeląg-JaroszPsychologist, coach, personal development trainer. She gained professional experience working in the field of psychological support, crisis intervention, professional activation and coaching.He specializes in the area of life coaching, supporting the client in improving the quality of life, strengthening self-esteem and active self-esteem, maintaining life balance and effectively dealing with the challenges of everyday life. She has been associated with non-governmental organizations in Warsaw since 2007, co-runs the Center for Personal Development and Psychological Services of the Compass
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