What do grandchildren need grandparents for? How to be a good grandma? How to be a good grandpa? There is a lot of advice about being a good grandmother or grandfather. It is difficult to realize them all, and ideal grandparents only exist in fairy tales. However, you can make your grandchildren think that of you. What should the best grandparents be like?
Grandparentssatisfy the need for unconditional love and full acceptance. Parents are obliged to raise a child, therefore they have to punish, reward and make demands on them. Grandparents do not have to do this, so they can allow themselves to be tolerant, gentle,pampering their grandchildren , love without limits, not burdened with such great responsibility as in the case of parents.
Best grandparents: 4 rules
The best grandparents should follow these rules:
- be yourself. Act naturally, don't pretend to be people you are not. Young children can sense what is false. They will not accept artificiality. They will love grandparents who are real.
- try to exist simultaneously in two dimensions: functional and personal. The first is to expand the knowledge and skills of grandchildren. The second one is establishing a strong emotional bond with them by talking about yourself and your feelings.
show your children interest in their grandchildren, help them, but do not interfere with their lives, educational methods, even if you do not approve of them. Don't try to help them in raising their grandchildren.
give your grandchildren the best that you have. Bring an atmosphere of peace and security to their home. Love them without compulsion, feelings of duty, but do not reproach all their whims, do not question their parental prohibitions.
What are grandparents needed for?
convey traditions, customs - both family and social - as well as moral and religious values in the environment in which they function. They help grandchildren to get to know the world around them and the rules that govern it. They shape the sense of family permanence and their grandchildren's own identity, telling stories about themselves, their parents and grandparents.
give a sense of security so important for the emotional and mental development of a child. Well-known furniture and souvenirs in the grandparents' house, their habits inin a maddening world, they give an invaluable feeling of stability and peace.
they teach tolerance and respect for people. Grandparents behave differently from parents. Sometimes they are slow, often ill, unable to perform certain activities. In contact with them, children learn to be tolerant of people who are different, and that they have completely different needs and may need help.
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