Is there anything worse than the love of an ugly woman? Yes - the friendship of a beautiful woman - Albert Camus used to say.
Even at the end of the 90s, over 60 percent Poles put friendship in the first place. From a social diagnosis prepared, among others, by by prof. Janusz Czapiński, it follows that we find friendship almost on a par with family life. Because while without love you can live a little bit, without friendship it would be terribly difficult.
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Someone once compared the friendship between a man and a woman to a peculiar act of masochism, which sooner or later has to find its end in bed. Okay, but has anyone said that friends can't fall in love? After all, it is said that the most durable relationships grew out of friendship. Even the greatest passion and infatuation will not last spring if the relationship is all about sex. But if all of this comes with a friendship, there is a high probability that the relationship will end in a wedding rug.
You can survive without love
Friendship is essential to us both in a partner relationship and in everyday life. Because you can have many friends, only a few friends. Built for years, it can withstand the toughest trials. Friends for life and death quarrel more than once more sharply and than strangers. But only they can sincerely forgive themselves, understand their judgments and reasons. They may not see each other for months, and when they do, they understand each other without words. Unlike ex-fiancés, husbands or lovers.
- Before you get serious with each other, try to make friends first. It is friendship that builds trust and an emotional bond. And this friendship will keep you going, even when sex comes second or even third. If there is no friendship, the basis of the relationship sooner or later becomes fragile, unstable and prone to destruction - advises Tatiana Ostaszewska-Mosak, a psychologist.
Okay, but does this relationship also apply to friendship between a man and a woman? Americans, for example, sincerely believe that brotherhood between two genders is possible and does not have to be sexual in nature. At least in the beginning. However, women usually do not have problems with friendship, men more often want to become acquainted with a woman.into something more. This applies to both close friends and distance friendships, e.g. via the Internet. Sometimes it is possible to stop this desire without ruining the friendship, but sometimes the desire for rapprochement is so strong that it takes precedence over everything. And then the only option is to say goodbye. The worst thing that can be is a friendly relationship based on delusions, understatements and question marks.