Everything is wrong. This is not how we look, this is not how we do, and this is not how we live. Never before has our self-esteem been so drastically low. We honestly don't like each other, and more and more often we dislike each other.
Only 29 years old, model figure, thick brown hair and earnings twice the national average. It would seem: to live, not to die! Not for her. She still feels that she is doing everything wrong as she wants to. Not as others would like. He constantly blames himself, and broods over the slightest criticism about himself endlessly. She is too fat, too stupid, too sickly, too sincere. - It wasn't always like that. Once upon a time I was a very confident girl with my own merits. My self-esteem collapsed after a love disappointment. I came to the conclusion that I am a failure, that I do not deserve true love and that I am not a valuable person - says Magda. - I don't know if it will ever change. Maybe it will pass over time, maybe it will change a new relationship, love, although I do not really believe that I will be happy in my life.
According to an expertTatiana Ostaszewska-MosakDue to low self-esteem, women tend to fall into a state of low mood more often, talk about it more often, blame themselves for certain things more often - low self-esteem affects themselves more, which does not mean that it is not difficult to live with it also their relatives. On the other hand, low self-esteem in men usually affects the environment, because men have a need to find the guilty person outside of themselves. As if they transform "weakness" into strength, that is, for example, they are characterized by an increased need for aggression and a large dose of frustration. And what does it look like from a distance? Well, to the opposite of low self-esteem. Various misunderstandings can arise from this. Parents are not very able to evoke a correct assessment of themselves in their children, because they cannot do it themselves, and besides, they are afraid that they will "overdo" and the child will become selfish and selfish. They don't even know how wrong they are. Proper - great love, but also setting limits, does not lead to an overgrowth only to proper growth.
To make you want to
"Inner beauty is the strength needed to love yourself. When you love yourself, you become completely selfless, ”says the famous photographer TierneyGearon. Theoretically, it can be positive or negative. High or low. But what about all the shades of gray? It's hard to be subjective in judging yourself. Self-confidence, associated with high self-esteem is an extremely desirable feature, but unfortunately not available to everyone. Self-esteem does not come just like that, overnight, although one event is enough to make it fall head over heels. There are people more and less prone to fluctuations in self-esteem. It depends on their strength of character, stability, and finally on whether they approach life coldly, or have an emotional attitude to everything that happens. It all depends on whether we accept ourselves here and now or we clearly reject. Appropriate self-assessment allows you to deal with possible problems, supports you in difficult times and gives you hope for the future. If it is not there, there is harm, regret, guilt and inferiority. A person with low self-esteem not only cannot cope with minor difficulties, but also takes everything personally and blames himself for all the evil in this world. In time, even hatred, disgust, and a lack of will to live may arise. We need it to act, to get up every day. To make you want to. It inspires, mobilizes and drives to action. It is not surprising that the lack of it weakens the will and willingness to do anything. That is why it is worth developing and caring for it. The better we are with self-esteem, the easier it will be for us to live.
Love yourself
Wayne W. Dyer, a leading American psychiatrist, emphasizes that the only cure for low self-esteem is a large dose of self-love. Loving yourself is not evil at all, and a key step in increasing your self-esteem is accepting your body. So stand in front of the mirror and make a detailed list of what you like and what you don't. Then think about what you can change (e.g. hair color) or not (too short legs). After such a detailed inspection, you should feel better. You will know where you are standing, and perhaps some of your body complexes will turn out to be quite innocent and sometimes even funny. Writing them on a piece of paper will allow you to see them from the side and get some distance.
PS. According to research conducted by Research International for Dove, only 4 percent. Polish women interviewed are considered attractive, and 8 percent. too pretty. None of the women interviewed in Poland considered themselves beautiful.