In the modern world, women often assume roles stereotypically assigned to men. This is the case not only in business or politics, but also in partnership relations. However, is it profitable for women? Is a woman as strong and dominant as the alpha male happy?

Strong and dominant women , acting likealpha maleprobably no longer surprise anyone. Ladies tend to assume male roles and it is more socially accepted than when typically female roles are taken over by men. This is clearly noticeable in corporations, where the style of a woman's dress often imitates the style of a man-boss. Women put on jackets, something like a "female jacket", carry briefcases, etc., and avoid wearing skirts. This is because there is still a stereotype that a male boss is better than a female boss. A tangible symptom of this belief is the fact that employees are more willing to spontaneously listen to the male boss and more quickly assign him features that facilitate the exercise of power. A woman must first prove to her subordinates that she is a good boss. The credit of trust that is placed on her is small at first. "Dressing up" as a man is therefore a way to gain greater obedience, respect and submission from employees.

Dominant woman

Taking over male roles by women, however, exceeds the boundaries of the workplace. A strong, confident, dominant, and even aggressive woman is more accepted than a submissive, sentimental, fearful, shy, or talkative man. Changes in the performance of roles also take place in partnership relations. Women, like men, want to rule and tend to dominate. For the most part, however, they dominate in a more camouflaged manner than males. For example, researchers found that a dominant woman does not directly control a man, but rather directs "how a man is to be dominant": "Come on, be a man, man, dominate, rule, take it …" and here it is usually detailed instructions are given as to how a man should be a man.

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The desire to dominate the partner leads to the misfortune not only of the woman, but of course also of the man. Fortunately, in practice it is relatively rare for one partner to take over the totalcontrol. We are then dealing with an aberration in male-female relationships that requires marital therapy.

Power and sex

This domination strategy has a chance of success because a woman has a lot of power in her marriage. If we define power as greater control over something desirable, we find that the women in marriages rule. At least when it comes to sex life. Studies show that men crave more sex than women, and most often feel that the frequency of these contacts is too low. Women, on the other hand, are usually satisfied with both the quantity and quality of sexual contact with a partner. This means that it is the woman who controls the sex life - she decides how often and when sex takes place, so she exercises more power over this important aspect of the couple's life.

Fighting for relationship domination

Each couple, if they are to survive, must make their own way of establishing the rules of domination. In the most flexible relationships, both spouses are able to both give way and get their way. In these pairs, when disputes, the problem is discussed and arguments exchanged rather than trying to dominate the other side.

It also happens that there is a rigid "division of the territory". One thing rules in the kitchen and another decides about finances. If both sides have a strong tendency to dominate, this setting of boundaries significantly reduces the frequency of conflicts. However, if both people are unable to share the "spheres of influence" - there is a permanent conflict. These pairs do not try to solve disputable issues, but to win, get their way at all costs, dominate their partner, keep on going and always have the last word. It happens that one of the spouses takes "absolute power" and ultimately he decides everything, always has the last word and his decisions become binding.

Total takeover of power

Taking total power is an unhe althy deal, whether it's a man or a woman. Unfortunately, women in such an arrangement bear higher costs than for men. This is because women - including the most dominant ones - most often want relationships with men who are masculine, not feminine.

Unfortunately, such men usually also provoke the strongest fear. Ultimately, these women form relationships with men who they manage to dominate (and who accept it) but whom deep down they love less precisely because they dominate them. In addition, if successful, it automatically reduces the man's ability to take initiative, and that is a Pyrrhic victory.

The man is defeated,at the same time, however, it is devoid of those features that give a sense of satisfaction and fascination in the relationship with him.

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Castrating woman

In the most vivid form the mechanism of taking over the power over a partner appears in psychology under the term of "castrating woman". A woman does things that deprive a man of his masculinity, and it is not only about the literal meaning of this term (a man becomes impotent), but also about taking away other male attributes - the ability to take the initiative, make important decisions (e.g. regarding children) etc. Another example of such symbolic castration is seducing a man, making him fall in love with you, and when it is successful, abandoning him or rejecting him.

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