Another little argument. No big deal, you'll make up right now and it'll be nice again. However, the constant underestimation of minor conflicts and squabbles can eventually lead to a big brawl. And then it won't be nice anymore.
Shoes in the middle of the hall, socks scattered about, unwashed dishes. Any excuse is good to start aargument . A different opinion about a certain person, refusal to watch the same TV program, or a difference in political views may also lead to aconflict . The range of causes of disagreements is extremely wide.
Reach the source of the argument
You usually forget about arguments quickly. But they come back like a boomerang, and with time they start to get out of hand. - Small quarrels can lead to serious arguments. If we do not diagnose the source of the problem in time, the arguments will come back cyclically. And this can ruin the relationship - warns Monika Dreger from the Warsaw Psychological Group. A lot also depends on the endurance of the spouses or fiancés. After all, everyone has a different mental structure - after some, the wash bucket goes down like a duck, others react with aggression and intensify the terrible atmosphere, still others suppress their emotions, and after some time they explode like a volcano.
You must do itargue with your head
1.Criticize behavior, not the person. "Leaving dirty socks in the room is sloppy" sounds better than "You sloppy".
2.Let the other side speak. You are not the only one who has something to say. The other half's arguments are as important to her as your arguments to you.
3.Watch your words. Sometimes it's easy to go astray and emotionally say something that you will regret later.
4.Seek a compromise. There are times when it is impossible to make both parties fully happy. It's hard. Give up something in order to gain something else.
5. Watch your voice. An aggressive, flashy and demanding tone can act like a blanket for the bull. Better to talk more calmly.
Tactic of keeping silent about problems
Often, seemingly harmless disagreements are the result of greater animosity. - It happens that we resent the other person for some past behavior. We do not talk about it loudly, we suppress bad emotions within ourselves. We choose the tactic of silence, we pretend that there is no problem. However, he is and he torments us. Too much of a grudgewe pour out on the occasion of minor conflicts - notes Emilian Walendzik, a psychologist. This strategy is going nowhere. Not only does it regularly spoil common relationships, it also makes it impossible to get to the bottom of the matter, i.e. the actual problem. The other half does not understand why all sorts of grievances keep multiplying. In order to avoid such unpleasant situations, you must finally dare to say loudly about what is bothering us.
Talking instead of arguing
Sometimes small conflicts don't have to go wrong. It happens that a relationship is made up of two very strong personalities who hate when something is imposed on them. This situation automatically makes it difficult for them to communicate. However, the hard characters cannot be blamed. You have to find compromises. Finding the golden mean will not take five minutes, you will probably have to argue several times along the way. Still, it's worth trying. What else could be the causes of arguments in the relationship? Sometimes we just want to slap our nose. The problem is immaturity in interpersonal communication - points out Emilian Walendzik. - So it's high time to finally learn to talk. It is necessary to function not only in a relationship, but also in a larger community - he adds.