Magazines for girls full of sexual advice, media promoting younger and younger models, almost children, in increasingly promiscuous poses, fashion - all this accelerates the sexualization of adolescents. Girls often decide on early sexual initiation because they want to meet the expectations of a group of peers and gain the recognition of their colleagues.

Magda, 15 years old, blonde curls, dimples and an amazing gift for networking. She is daddy's beloved daughter, spoiled from birth. At the age of 13, she caught the eye of her father's friend. He had time for her and listened carefully. It was he who persuaded her to compete in "Teen Miss". She made it to the finals. After the competition, there were offers for foreign travels. She quickly got hooked. She began to change "guardians" like gloves. It amused her when she wrapped a mature guy around his finger, ignited his senses and abandoned him unscrupulously. She felt that the desire of such gentlemen ensured her safety, money.

Why do teens choose older men as sexual partners?

The reasons for the fact thatteenagerschoose mature men can be found in the family home.

Growing upgirlneeds parental support. And they often have neither the time nor the patience for her. Then she transfers her emotional needs to more "approachable" adults. For a 40-year-old, an affair with a woman-child is like an energy boost. She deludes that the underage lover will restore his youth.

Important

In 1955, Vladimir Nabokov's novel "Lolita" was published about the immoral relationship between an aging man and a maturing girl. Since then, the term "lolitka" has been adopted in everyday language and as a psychological term.

Adult fashion among teenagers

The world of adults is accelerating the sexualization of the youngest generation. Magazines for girls are full of praise forsex,media promote younger and younger child models. Britney Spears was hailed as the sexiest woman in the world when she was a teenager. The youngest fans enthusiastically tried to look like an idol and, like her, evoke flushing on men's faces. It is also a question of the youth fashion for being an adult. The girls want to meet the group's expectations and gain recognition. They think they will achieve itthanks to initiation into the world of sex. More and more of them have sex between the ages of 14 and 15. They do it for non-sexual reasons - to be liked or to rebel against adults.

Rigor at home can drive a teenager into promiscuous behavior

Parents' rigorous attitude towards sex also arouses excessive interest in eroticism in adolescent girls. Ania comes from a poor Catholic family. At home, sex was a taboo subject, the matter of "adults, married people". She could not come to terms with the thought that her parents treated her like a child, even though she was "already" 14 years old. She began to test her charm on her older brother's friends. She soon found out that older guys were much more likely than their brother's friends to show off their generosity. After all, she did not feel worse than her we althy friends.

Teen Victims of Violence

The number of children abused physically or mentally by adults is growing dangerously. Karolina is a beautiful 16-year-old with big, sad eyes. For two years, since she has not lived at home, she has been making a living as a prostitute. At the age of nine, she was raped by her father. When he left, she stayed with her clumsy, ill mother and three siblings. He doesn't think he's sacrificing himself. He's just trying to survive. This is the fate of girls who are sexually harassed by their father or guardian. Many child prostitutes in this dramatic way of reacting to the horror of childhood. This is the only way they can demand love. These girls need the help of a psychologist.

The price of premature adulthood

If a teenager offers sex, it doesn't necessarily mean she wants it. Even if she seems to be a sophisticated lover, she is still a child emotionally. Teenagers have sex because they want to feel important, appreciated and loved. They measure their self-esteem by the number of guys they catch for their sex appeal. They are easy prey for experienced sex amateurs. Increasingly, however, teenagers' motivation is purely material. When the opportunity arises to experience luxury, winning a sponsor becomes a tempting opportunity. Unfortunately, often at the cost of losing dignity and ambitious life goals. Such relationships are dangerous to the psyche of adolescents. They don't know how to control their developing femininity. They cannot define the limits of their own intimacy. Since sex is a tool for them to achieve their goals, they may lose their ability to love. Lolitas are girls raised mostly by parents who: did not show each other love and respect, were too demanding or prudish, were not consistent, showed erotic freedom. It also happens that teenagers succumbbad influence of peers, regardless of the atmosphere in the house.

Pay close attention to whether your adolescent daughter:

  • contemptuously speaks of higher feelings (pure love, devotion to others, fidelity);
  • prefer material matters over feelings;
  • steals your cosmetics and perfumes in secret;
  • especially interested in underwear from various garments;
  • is unnaturally absorbed with her appearance (e.g. she stuffs her bra with handkerchiefs, because her bust has not yet grown);
  • is not ashamed of her body, and even flaunts it (embarrassment with physicality in an adolescent girl is natural);
  • as a model is a friend for whom money is the most important.

If your teen is acting like this, don't panic, but:

  • Prepare to talk to your daughter calmly, think about what she lacked: your care, time, understanding, or maybe you were too tolerant;
  • don't turn into a policeman; remember that you are an adult, smarter than your child;
  • if it turns out that she is involved in a relationship with an adult male, talk to the one who seduced her, he will most likely disappear from the child's life quickly;
  • be your daughter's friend (do not close her at home, let her friends and colleagues come home, control her firmly but discreetly);
  • ask a psychologist for help.
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