It turns out that completely different stimuli act on men and women. Check what seduces men and what women! We certainly have one thing in common: both genders pay close attention to the appearance of the other person. After all, we see each other first, and only then we hear. Learn the ways to seduce.

It was once researched what makes people want to go to therapy sessions with one person and not another. Much to the experiment's surprise, professionalism and the ability to listen ended up in second place; they were replaced by … beauty!

Physical attractiveness was indicated by both men and women as an important factor. In the case of men, it is somewhat obvious, after all, they are famous for being visual learners. But even women preferred to associate with a handsome interlocutor than a smart ugly.

What kind of women are men looking for?

An old Arabic proverb says that a woman with her character keeps a man with her, but attracts him with her beauty. And there is something to it.

- When my little son was going to school, the first question was: "Will you be pretty?" - Katarzyna Platowska, a psychologist and therapist, smiles.

And it does not change over time: men have a "demand" for an attractive, representative and seductive woman. It is best if they like it not only to them, but also to the competition: they get very thrilled with the delight of other men when they look at their companion. Then they "grow", because the woman by their side is the best advertisement of their abilities.

What makes men find a woman attractive? German scientists have checked: the male imagination is best influenced by the ladies who show approx. 40 percent. body. If they show less, they won't attract attention. If more, they will be labeled "slutty". Contrary to appearances, it is possible to show a lot of body not only in summer, when we wear strappy dresses and short skirts. In winter, you can also display your charms: by wearing tight jeans, blouses with a neckline, matching dresses and sweaters. In such clothes you can see the outline of the bust, the hip line, the shape of the buttocks, but not entirely, which is even more attractive for men.

Important

Never show in the company that we disagree with our man, do not point out mistakes.

What seduces men?

1. Most men can't resist a womanwhich has high heels on her feet. High-heeled shoes act as an aphrodisiac.

High heels are very feminine, when we put them on, the whole statics of the figure changes - says Platowska. - Straighten your back, unhook your bottom, push your breast forward, legs seem longer. But it doesn't stop there: something uncertain about the woman in high heels appears. It is not grounded, not stable; seems more helpless, in need of help .

2. Gentlemen like to feel needed. Most men want a woman to see them as a hero; someone who can handle something that she and other men cannot cope with.

But before they become our heroes, you have to get through the first hours of acquaintance. Those who will remember that men are mainly strong physically will succeed. Emotionally, they are often weaker than the ladies! When they see a beautiful woman, they desire her a little and a little fear - because what if she rejects them? If he says "no"? Their ego can't handle it!

3.That is why women's delight is extremely seductive for a man.

If a woman listens carefully to him, laughs at his jokes and shows that she finds him an attractive and interesting guy, he grows wings on his shoulders. And he is already starting to plan what attractions he will offer on the second date to this charming creature, on whom he made such a great impression.

A man likes to feel adored

4. A man dreams of a woman having something of a mother or a nurse in her.

The first woman in his life - his mother, she cared for and loved him unconditionally; she did not ask for anything, she gave a lot - emphasizes the psychologist. - And often, when men move out of the family home, men expect it to be like mum's, plus sex. This is why they like it when a woman takes care of them, shows concern, cares about satisfying their needs. For most men, it will be much more seductive to tie a scarf around their necks before going out to the frost or asking "are you not hungry?" Than letting them know we know the stock market.

5. People often choose on the basis of additions, complements - believes Platowska.

Therefore, a scientist will not need a super-wise woman, but a sweet, home-made hen that will take care of him and the family hearth. Hence, gestures that demonstrate female care for her husband are seductive. Many men consider this to be the essence of femininity.

6. The man wants to be respected. It is very important to him!

Women often do not understand this because it is more important for them to feel loved. The man often submitsrespect even above love. Therefore, we almost irretrievably lose the chance to seduce a male, whom we have discredited, humiliated or shown our superiority - especially in company. Rivalry (and worse - victorious rivalry) on the part of a woman can make him angry, insecure, and willing to retaliate - but certainly not tenderness or a desire for closeness.

7. Respect and appreciation can be shown to a man in two ways: privately and in public - explains Platowska.

The first way is to show him that we take his opinion into account: we ask for advice on some matters and - that's important! we put these advice into practice. The second way: we never show in company that we disagree with our man, do not point out mistakes and do not criticize.

We cite his wisdom and opinions and speak well of him, highlighting his skills and abilities. A woman who gives him such a "testimony" will not be resisted by any man.

What seduces women?

Someone once said that money is Viagra for women. Again - there is a grain of truth in this saying. - But not because women are cunning - says Platowska. It all comes down to feeling safe, and money is part of the game here.

1. For a woman, the balance of the account counts, not because she likes to count zero, but because the feeling of security is absolutely the most important for her. When satisfied, it blooms.

That is why women often decide to have a relationship with an older man: he is experienced in life and resourceful, so he will find a solution in every situation. He already has an established professional position that allows for financial security. He's already freaked out, so he won't cheat and look for attractions. And if he is much older - he will have to watch over his younger and attractive wife against other males (usually the opposite is true among co-age children). In a word: he will be by her side more often.

2. Nature has shaped us in such a way that we become pregnant and raise children, we are less oriented towards romance and more looking for a permanent partner - explains the psychologist. That is why women are seductive by everything that makes a man qualify as a "potentially good father", "family individual", "constant in feelings ".

Hence a man who proves that he likes children and animals will stimulate a woman's heart to beat faster. And if, in addition, he accepts and establishes a friendly, positive relationship with the child of a woman from a previous relationship - he will be promoted to the title of the ideal.

3. It is true to say that the shortest path to a mother's heart is through the child is true.

A man does not attach so much importance to whether his partner accepts his children - if she is attractive, great in bed and meets his expectations, it is enough to tolerate them. He will turn a blind eye to it, although it will be a scratch on the ideal, because a good relationship with them is always a huge plus.

Women like it when they get a lot of attention

4. Women are seduced by their partner's attentions: the fact that he will open the door for her, give her a coat, carry something heavy - says the psychologist.

5.They are seduced by all the gestures and evidence of his awareness, because he expects him to be involved, take responsibility for her and for the relationship. A woman needs to show her commitment in a thousand different ways: remembering birthdays, giving flowers, handing out small gifts, calling for chat, respecting her friends … This reassures her that she is being taken seriously.

6. Ladies love affectionate words, conversations about love, relationship and relationship. They need continuity in showing feelings, constant maintenance of contact.

A man says "I love you" and believes that he does not have to repeat it for the next 10 years, because nothing has changed … And a woman needs to be assured of love every day. Why? At least because of statistics: so far, mainly men are still cheating …

Important

Inherent element of a successful pickup: souls understanding

This is another factor that most women find it hard to resist. A woman lists a man's sense of humor and understanding similar to her own as a great advantage, believes Katarzyna Platowska. Because she is looking for less of a lover, more of a companion who will be fun to spend time with, who will understand her. A man can find fulfillment in dealing with people outside the home, and at home he wants to have sex, care and care. A woman needs mental and emotional contact with her partner. This is where intimacy is built.

Therefore, even if a guy is a nice ugly but can convince a woman that he is a soul mate, he has a good chance to get it. A woman's drive is not as strong, so she focuses less on sexual attraction and more on understanding.

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