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My 3-year-old is still afraid of being left alone. Even when I'm on the toilet, it knocks and wants to come in. And when I went to the store for 20 minutes, it made me cry when I stayed with my grandmother. For 3 months I was only alone with him and my husband, all days and nights, and earlier, when he was smaller, we lived with my grandparents and it was no problem when I went out for longer, even for a day. And now it sticks to me like Velcro. What should I do, because sometimes you have to go out alone without him, do things or go to the store. How to unlearn him of such dependence on his mother? I am currently on parental leave
Hello. It is very good that you are at home with your child - you will have more time and opportunities to teach him what you want. Maybe my son is going through a more difficult period, or maybe he has actually become a little addicted to your presence. Don't worry and don't panic. Your peace of mind is that of a child. And don't you have any problems with leaving your son to someone else? Are you sure about this care? Are you perhaps a little worried yourself? Mateuszek must be informed what and how is going on and will happen. Tell him you're leaving, don't suddenly disappear. Don't run away just because you're afraid of tears. It is easier for an informed child to accept the inevitable. Also tell him how long you will be away (in a child-friendly form) and what he can do when you are gone. Be sure to be on time as your child has to build a lot of trust in you. Perhaps he will be so entertained that he will not notice you returning, but perhaps he will be waiting all the time. At least the first few times. Don't worry that the little one is crying - he shows his discontent and regret, but nothing big happens to him, as long as he is well looked after. He may prefer to be with you, but must understand that this is not always possible. He has to learn this. It often takes a while to learn and you need to be patient. Don't scream, don't be nervous - do your job calmly. Give him some time and everything will work out.
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Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
Your knowledgeShe uses her experience and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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