Basically, my husband and I have had a problem with matching our needs from the very beginning. My libido is probably average and I do not have any exaggerated needs, i.e. it is enough for me 2-3 times a week, sometimes more often, but here there is a problem, because my husband shows interest somehow once every 1-2 months and in most cases it I initiate rapprochement. After 4 years of marriage I am fed up with waiting for improvement, change or anything and basically our marriage hangs in the balance. I feel unattractive, there were suspicions about another woman, there were requests for threats and tearing my robes … Somewhere in the meantime I forced an appointment with a sexologist who ordered a hormone test. The estrogen level was above normal, but the doctor said that it had no effect and everything was ok … Unfortunately, it is not ok. We also tried marital therapy, but everything is temporary, ie max. 2 weeks improvement and everything is back … I don't know what to do. I am a normal woman with normal needs. My husband is a great man, and apart from that, we are well in tune. I am asking for advice …
Hello
In fact, one of the reasons for the decrease in libido may be the level of hormones. If it is fine in this regard, we can look elsewhere for the reasons. The psychological causes are usually the usual stress and fatigue resulting from everyday difficulties. Then it is worth considering what can be changed in life, at work, so that this stress is less and that the partner has more time for other activities that help relieve tension accumulated at work. Another psychological cause are conflicts in the relationship - often unexplained quarrels, grievances, regrets (even those from several years ago). Relationships with many years of experience are threatened with boredom, everyday life and monotony. Lack of interest in sex life can also be one of the first symptoms of an emerging disease such as diabetes, high blood pressure or depression, and of the medications you are taking (for example, antidepressants). These symptoms can be aggravated by smoking, drinking large amounts of alcohol, lack of exercise, poor diet, and sleep disturbances. You do not write anything about your husband's sexual life before meeting you - did he have sexual partners before? If so, how was their intercourse? These questions are important in order to rule out a possible homosexual orientation in the husband. The reasons for the lackthe desire for sex can be many and can be complicated, so I think you should visit a sexologist psychologist who could look for reasons from the psychological point of view.
Regards
Magdalena Bogdaniuk
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Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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