My problem is that I don't enjoy sex as much as it should. The only pleasure from sex is this closeness, a long hug, delighting my partner with my body, making him feel good. I do not have and never have had an orgasm. I am 30 years old, I am 9 years old, and I had three other partners before I got married. I have never had an orgasm, I don't know what it feels like, maybe because of the lack of this sensation I am not drawn to sex. I love my husband, but for some time my lack of orgasm has become a problem for him. The topic of sex has never been a taboo subject, no one has ever hurt me on this background…. Why does he sometimes even feel disgusted with sex, male sperm, penis? I am not able to bring myself to orgasm. He does not masturbate - he does not feel the need to do so, and it is even funny to me … Am I sick?
There can be many reasons for the lack of sexual pleasure, and in fact it usually contributes to the fact that a woman stopsbeing interested in sex , or evenavoids. Usually, we strive for what we enjoy, and if something is indifferent or even unpleasant to us, we do it withreluctanceand it might not exist for us.
Since you have never experienced unpleasant sexual events, the reasons should be looked for elsewhere. First, coming from a family where sex was perceived negatively or a woman's sexuality was perceived as something bad. Second, not telling your partner what your needs or pleasure are, so your partner doesn't know what sexual technique to use. Third, not knowing your needs, your body.
In addition, it would be worth excluding organic factors, including hormonal disorders - for this purpose, tests must be performed. I am afraid that a telephone or internet consultation will be insufficient to help you. Problems of this type are usually complex and require direct consultation with a specialist.
The comforting thing is that they can be treated and that treatment can have good results.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and sexologistjudicial. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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