I don't know what's been happening to me lately, anyway, since childhood I have had problems with myself. I have never had self-confidence, I cannot enjoy what I have. Instead of looking ahead, I look back, analyze mistakes. When I am successful, I cannot be joyful. All is well until there is another banal reason to cry again like a little girl, and I'm already twenty years old. I am also afraid that I will not be able to cope with my life, sometimes I am fed up with everything. It's not like I don't want to live !!! The point is, I don't want to live that way. What to do? How to change my life so that I can be happy that I'm he althy, that I'm alive, that I have a family. I can not!! Although I really want to. Since childhood, I have had some strange fears. At first, as a little girl, I was afraid of being alone, I was afraid of death, for my loved ones. Now I am afraid that I will fail someone, that I will hurt someone, I would like all people to respect me and admire me. I know my biggest problem is that I am selfish !!! Please help !!!
Hello! The world is full of "sensitive people" like you. There is nothing wrong with that. In fact - as with everything - it has its advantages and disadvantages. You just have to look at it properly. Sure life is not easy, but who said easy is beautiful? This, of course, does not mean that you do not have to make things easier for yourself and not try to improve your well-being, but … not all at once. If from childhood you feel exactly as you described, it means that your construction and experiences have caused this arrangement of your features. So it will not be easy to change. You will have to come to terms with many of them and like them. This does not apply to fear - it should be de alt with as much as possible. It's just that you experience different kinds of it - some of them are very practical (future, ways of coping), and some quite irrational or existential (death, loved ones). We deal with the former differently, with the latter different. I think you should go to a psychologist - to separate one from the other and find your own ways to cope. It is possible even without long and complicated therapy. Especially since you have a will to change and a strong motivation. Don't lose it.
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Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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