My son is 2.5 years old. He has been afraid of things for a long time. For example, stains on the wall or on the floor, once he saw an old house with a shabby wall, we could not soothe Him. There may be stains on your clothes or table when you eat it, it immediately gets frustrated and walks away. He is terrified when it is loud somewhere, for example in a church or at a family gathering, when someone starts to speak a little louder. I do not know what to do. After the whole day, we conduct a conversation about what was going on during the whole day, I have to assure him several times that he is not afraid of anything, so that he can sleep peacefully. He is a very lively child, we talk a lot and I explain to him that there is no reason to be afraid of such things. I try to tame these "fears" but nothing comes of it …
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A two-year-old is a two-year-old and has rights. :)
Fears, bizarre behavior, running away from places that have not aroused emotions until recently, not being immune to noise or sounds that you do not want, and similar changes are quite a normal part of this age. This can take up to six months, and should be around the third birthday. Unless the son is such a sensitive child (it has nothing to do with spontaneity and the joy of life) who prefers sensations that are subdued and not stimulating too much. It's best to stay vigilant and… pay as little attention to these strange behaviors as possible. I think it should be emphasized not the fact that "there is nothing to be afraid", but more focusing on showing what it is, what is happening and why. So pay as little attention to what is negative as possible and to bring out what is positive. If you tell your child all the time that "you shouldn't be afraid because there is nothing to do" then - firstly, you talk about this fear all the time, and secondly - you question his feelings. It is small and has the right to feel what it feels. Your task is to translate, accompany and … stay calm as long as possible. Too much talk on one topic can tire an adult, let alone a toddler. Focus on making his life orderly, calm, joyful for now, laugh a lot, do what he likes, do not make him too demanding, so that he gain as much faith in himself and his abilities as possible. Remember that fear can be turned into funny things (remember never to make fun of a child!). Stain on the table? Or maybe it is in the shape of a dinosaur? Or maybe it is similar to MIKI Mouse? Or maybe you canmake a mess yourself by painting a stain of milk on the table? And so on - the creativity of the parents must be great. And besides … Does your little son not watch too many fairy tales on TV? Does he not watch TV while you are watching it? Don't be fooled by the moments when he is supposed to be busy playing - he sees and hears enough to not understand and then be afraid. If the problems persist for the next few months and there are no signs of improvement - you should visit a child psychologist to have your son and your family examined. However, I hope that these are just problems related to the development characteristic of this age.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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