Hello! I have recently met a friend of my friend, but unfortunately he constantly addresses her vulgarly and is very jealous of her friends, including me. I am puzzled by his behavior, because he offends me and my friend, and forbids her from meeting others. What should she do? How do you explain to him what he cannot understand?
I understand that you want to be nice and always okay. It's not that bad. In this case, however, I would not think too long about possible reasons or motives for my colleague's behavior, but I would avoid any contact with him. Someone who is rude, vulgar and does not respect other people deserves the company of people like himself. No one is allowed to rule another person - there is no reason why one should tell another what to do, with whom or how to think about it. This is a bondage, not a relationship or friendship. It is a desire for domination and a desire to subjugate another human being. I don't see it as a partnership, let alone love. You ask what she should do. In my opinion, she should turn on her heel as soon as possible and run away as quickly as possible, as long as she does not have self-destructive tendencies. I do not see any sense in explaining anything (because and what to translate here? The basic principles of coexistence between people?) To a boy who, for reasons that are not a defense, offends anyone. I just can't see. Because you have to respect not only others but also yourself. Allowing yourself to contact someone like this is just not respecting yourself.
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Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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