A year ago I fell in love with Kacper. I know that he has a girlfriend in Sweden where he goes every summer and he feels good with her. I really care about his happiness. I don't know whether to fight for it? I think he knows about my feelings, but is it better to tell him personally?
Falling in love without reciprocity is a very sad thing. Because you have the impression that you give a lot and it costs you a lot, and in return you get nothing but sadness and disappointment. Unfortunately, in the situation you are in, you have little to do. If the boy knows about your feeling but is not interested in it, it's probably best not to go any further. This is how it is sometimes in life that we love not those who would gladly reciprocate our affection. And vice versa - we are loved by those who are not very interested in us. Especially at the age of teens, this phenomenon is quite common. This does not mean that we are bad or useless, but only that we are not the right person for a given person. You cannot fall in love on command, and you cannot force or even persuade anyone to feel. Therefore, I would not be inclined to the option of "fighting" for someone because I do not fully imagine what it would be exactly. Especially when the matter is clear to both parties - and you say it is. Or maybe you would just try to get to know him better, spend some time with him, see if it is really worth insisting on this feeling? Maybe you have some mutual friends or common interests. That would probably bring you closer than possibly imposing yourself on the serious topics of love. If you are going to have fun, the time will also come for you.
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Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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