I am 21 years old, I have been with my girlfriend for 3.5 years and I love her very much. This is my first girlfriend, and I am her first boyfriend too. She also claims that she loves me very much. She only says that she's not sure she wants to be with me for the rest of her life, because she has never had another boyfriend. She believes that if she wants to change something in her life, this is the last time, because it will soon be too late. He is considering leaving me. She said she gave herself a month to make sure (she didn't know if she really wanted to leave me and argue with someone else because she said she loved me). What to do to make her stay with me, I really care about her. I love her more than my life and I don't want her to go away!
The relationship is, among other things, about giving yourself freedom and freedom. You cannot force your partner to be with you. If she says she needs time please give her some time. This does not mean, however, that your partner can deceive you forever, she should also respect your feelings. Therefore, you should set a specific date for making a decision and a declaration on the part of your partner.
Talk also about what your partner is looking for in other men? It is unclear to me. If he declares that he loves the Lord, why is he also thinking about others? Maybe she's missing something in your relationship and she's ashamed to admit it? Or maybe she is simply afraid that the lack of previous experience does not allow her to make sure that you are the only life partner?
If this is the case, then she should be aware that even contact with a few other men will not give her such confidence. One can find out about it only by being with the Lord for a long time, living together, starting a family. Only such situations verify whether the partners really love each other and want to be together.
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Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. It takes care oftreatment of sexual dysfunction in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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