I have an unpleasant orgasm. It's not just the lack of it, because everything is going in the right direction. Usually, when my partner caresses my clitoris, I'm very close (I think), but when it gets really nice - I suddenly start shaking all over and I can't control it in any way - what's worse, the sensations are so intense that I can't I can stand it in the long run and I always ask my partner to stop because I can't stand it. It happens that I try to wait for these feelings as long as possible, because I know that my partner is really trying and I give him great pleasure that he can see me so lifted, but for me it is not a pleasant feeling, despite the fact that at the beginning when he does it's slow and not exactly right here, very good. However, when the clitoris is more stimulated, and it usually doesn't take more than a few minutes, that's when I shake all over, lift my body and can't control my breathing - but no, it can't be an orgasm because it's not a pleasant feeling, My muscles are not squeezing as they should, I try to tighten them to feel it as little as possible, because it is unbearable. And if I push my partner's hand away and after some time he wants to caress me again, then it doesn't even take a few minutes, every touch of the clitoris is painful at once … everything is too intense …
Orgasmdoesn't have to be pleasant at all. You can experience it without feeling any pleasure at the same time, and sometimes you can even feel pain. However, this is not the case and requires understanding its cause and applying appropriate treatment. First, you need to diagnose hypersensitivity to stimuli. Perhaps the nerve endings in the clitoris react too intensely to the stimulus. So you should see a doctor, preferably a gynecologist, and if possible a gynecologist specialized in sexology.
If the doctor has ruled out medical factors, then it may be helpful to see a sexologist-psychologist and consider the psychological factors. One should also exclude the factor related to adequate stimulation by the partner.
Do these unpleasant sensationsappear with every orgasm, or only with certain stimulation? During masturbation, when the Lady herself regulates the force of touch, do they also appear? If they do not arise from other situations, it may be enough to change the stimulation technique.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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