I am a woman in my thirties and I would never have thought that something like this would happen to me. Well, one time, during foreplay, when my partner was caressing me with his hand, I suddenly felt something warm and wet. We both thought it was blood until we smelled that awful smell. It was feces. I really have no idea how it happened and that I hadn't felt anything before. It's so disgusting and humiliating. Why did this happen. Nothing like this has ever happened to me, nor have I ever had anal sex. Since then, my partner has avoided intercourse and I am not surprised at all, although we had sex maybe four times since that event, I felt that he was forcing himself to do so. After the conversation, he finally admitted that he had been blocked since then, that he was afraid that it would happen again and that he needed time. But I'm afraid that he won't break down and our relationship will fall apart because sex is important to him. Is it even possible that it will unlock and everything will return to normal? Will he still want to make love to me like he used to? Can i do something? I wouldn't want to lose him.
First of all, you should visit a proctologist to find out what was the cause. If the doctor determines that you are he althy or proposes some method of treatment so that this problem does not recur, then both you and your partner will be informed that you do not have to be afraid of such an event in the future.
If you know why this happened and that it can be prevented, the fear of further intercourse will be less and everything should return to normal over time.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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