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My husband cheated on me. After the betrayal was revealed, he promised to break the relationship, but he kept in touch with the lady by phone. Today we no longer know each other, but I am afraid of another betrayal, the more so as my husband often leaves. How can I trust him when he has cheated on me twice because I believe that the secret phone calls after promising to end the relationship were also a betrayal? Does this relationship have a chance? husband swears my fears are unfounded.
Hello! Trust is sometimes hard to build, but "rebuilding" again is even more difficult. Here you need time and good experiences … And a lot of self-denial and good intentions. It is a matter of your decision - if I want to trust him again and if I will believe him. This will not happen right away, of course, but if you both persist, it is possible. It is everyday work with oneself, with emerging thoughts and doubts. And, of course, with our own hurt, because betrayal and deception usually hurt and hurt us a lot. Sometimes all this effort will pay off, because the relationship remains and often gets even better than it used to be. It is a matter of taking a risk and accepting that we can never - when it comes to the so-called "human factor" - we can have full guarantees and 100% certainty.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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