I have a little son, 3-year-old - from September he went to kindergarten and started asking questions about his dad. My son's dad died in a car accident two years ago. What can I tell my son and in what form?
Such young children need honesty above all, but in the simplest form. Don't complicate matters and don't have to talk too much. Everything, however, must be in line with your worldview and with what really happened. This is not to "get lost in testimony", but also because a child as an individual requires respect. Be sure to answer ONLY the questions asked, not what you guess. For example, when asked - "where is my dad?" you can say - "your dad is dead and" … here you put in what you think about it, eg "he is in heaven". You don't have to talk about the accident yet, because there were no questions about it, etc. I don't know what specific questions my son asks and what questions you are most afraid of, so it's hard for me to come up with answers. However, try not to show your son that this topic is difficult or very burdensome for you, because it may cause him anxiety and further questions, which he will not ask you anymore.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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