Hello, I'm 20 years old and I'm a woman. When I was a little girl, I went to elementary school, my stepfather molested me while my mother was at work. He was touching my breast. He said that if he touched them, they would grow faster. He was also touching my crotch and putting his hand in my pants. He also molested me in the evening when my mother was asleep and he was watching TV in my room because there was no TV in their room. I couldn't take it anymore, so I went to sleep with my mother, and when he came to sleep on TV, my mother would wake me up and go to my room. I told my mom that I can't sleep in front of the TV and that's why I come to her … And so it lasted … finally my mother bought a TV for their room because she said that I would have mine and they would have mine … Then my nightmare was over, I went to junior high school and he luckily started working. Nobody knows about what my life has been like. Mum wouldn't believe me anyway because my stepfather had a good opinion. When I turned 18 I moved from home to my mother's parents, I feel safe here.
In this case, you should report to the Police or the prosecutor's office and report the crime. Your stepfather will then likely be responsible for two articles - sexual abuse of a child under 15 and incest. He is threatened with imprisonment for this. I think that it would also be worth considering going to a psychologist in order to receive support in such a difficult and traumatic case for you. Firstly, because past experiences may have a negative impact on various areas of your life in the future (e.g. establishing a relationship, lack of trust in your partner, problems with your own sexuality. Congratulations that you dared to tell about it and made the decision to punish your stepfather - this is a very good decision. It is a difficult situation, but solving it should bring relief and the perpetrator should suffer the consequences.
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Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. She has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish SocietySexology, after completing a full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw and a certificate of a forensic sexologist. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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