The problem is, the more I insist on sex, the more he won't. On the other hand, if I stop talking about it completely (which is usually the case when I'm tired or have a gynecological problem) he suddenly feels like making love more often than usual. Then I usually refuse, and he reproaches me for not satisfying him … I do not understand such behavior at all … additionally, it irritates me a lot when he promises me that, for example, we will make love in the evening, and then it turns out that nothing will. I am tired of this situation.
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Looks like there is some kind of misunderstanding about sexuality between you that you cannot resolve on your own. Please try to talk to your partner, why does he not feel like having sex when you initiate it, is it bad for him? It also drew my attention to the fact that the partner initiates only when you cannot, i.e. when he knows that intercourse will not happen anyway, so he can feel safe proposing, because he knows that you will refuse. I therefore wonder if my partner is avoiding sex for some reason. I do not know if it has always been like this, if it has appeared at some point in your life and this is important information, because maybe some other factors make your partner feel less willing to have sex - for example, fatigue and stress or unresolved conflicts in the relationship. If, on the other hand, this problem was always there and your partner never showed interest in intercourse with you or with your previous partners, I would consider a possible homosexual orientation in my partner. Other factors that may influence are hormonal imbalances or certain diseases. However, they usually relate to an older age. There can be many factors affecting this, so it would be worth consulting a sexologist personally.
Regards
Magdalena Bogdaniuk
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Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men.He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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