Hello, I am a mother of a 4 year old boy. My son is a very mobile child, he has been going to kindergarten for a year. I am concerned about his behavior towards my father - he does not let him enter his room, there is no way that he would lie in his bed or hug him, he does not want to talk to him, does not answer his questions, even avoids contact. I have no idea what could be causing this behavior. It is a fact that the husband is often absent for work, but when he is at home our child ignores him. How should we proceed, what should we do to improve their relationship?
Hello! If the described reactions of the child appeared recently, something unpleasant must have happened in my son's life. Maybe Dad reacted too harshly to something, or maybe some other man hurt him. Observe how the child reacts to foreign masters. If he is afraid of them, it is a sign that the child is troubled by the trauma associated with an adult man and transfers his reactions to the father as well. What could have happened, the psychologist will come to you as soon as possible. However, if your son only avoids his father, and he is tender and gentle, the reaction may be due to jealousy for you. When dad arrives, you are no longer just for the baby. Try to talk to your son about daddy. Tell me how good dad is, how smart he loves you, etc. Prepare a surprise for dad together. Take the whole family out for a walk more often. Let papa organize the games. Do everything to make the father an attraction for the child, impress him and start attracting him. Keep trying. If the situation does not change, you must all take turns contacting a psychologist who will help you bring the situation to normal. Good luck. B.
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Barbara Śreniowska-SzafranEducator with many years of experience.
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