My son goes to the first grade and the teacher complains that she does not listen and does not follow any orders. He takes offense and cries, constantly saying "I won't", "I won't". When I talk to him, he promises you that he will be polite and that he will listen to you, but the situation repeats itself over and over again. What should I do? Where to go?
Magdaleno! It is probably difficult for my son to adapt to new conditions (environment, children, lady, commands, etc.). You have to wait and try to encourage the child to the school reality. The teacher complains, but it is mainly up to her how the beginning student functions. Ask him not to punish him for refusing to cooperate, but to help him in carrying out tasks, praise more often, even for small things, etc. The child has to believe that he will be able to do it. He must see that his efforts are noticed and rewarded. Maybe your son feels bad in the new group, maybe you don't like it, or maybe he's bored with school and doesn't see any sense in it. Often times, the child refuses to participate because he is afraid that he will not be up to the task, he is afraid of embarrassment, he does not want to do anything with strangers, etc., etc. There may be many reasons for this. This needs to be changed. Talk to your son about school, ask what was interesting, funny, what he liked. You will then draw his attention to the positive side of the school, and that is always encouraging. When a student is focused on "no", a good educator can find something for him that will keep him busy, give him satisfaction and encourage him to cooperate. I do not know the wider circumstances, I do not know your son, but you must know that children develop at different rates. Not all children reach school maturity at the age of seven. This maturity determines the level of physical and intellectual development, as well as the level of emotional and social development of the child, on which its functioning depends to a great extent. You can test your son at the Pedagogical and Psychological Clinic in this respect. There you will get the answer, for example, to the question whether your child should not start learning only in a year. Having a full picture, specialists will also tell you what is the reason for constant refusals and crying, and how to deal with your son at home. They should also give recommendations to the teacher about methods of working with your child. Regards. B.
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Barbara Śreniowska-SzafranEducator with many years of experience.
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