I have a 14-month-old son - I think he is he althy, but a few things bother me: he is very mobile, has problems to sit still for more than a moment, if he has something in his hand, e.g. to eat or to drink, or some toy is sitting on it, but without anything I can not hold it. He keeps running around somewhere, choosing his own toys, when I try to show him something, he is interested, but for example, I have a problem for him to listen to what I say - so it seems to me that he hardly speaks at all, except for two or three "of his " words. There is no way at all to teach him to show his nose, hand, etc, because he can't focus. Maybe I'm exaggerating a bit, but that's what it looks like. I wonder if these are sometimes symptoms of hyperactivity ??
Ania! I don't think there is any need for concern. You describe a he althy, mobile child. An overactive boy will not sit still with a toy or a cup, like your son. Boys often start talking later than girls. This does not mean that they do not understand and do not know the language. This is due to a lack of interest in such activity, a kind of laziness, and sometimes also from convenience. I knew a boy who communicated brilliantly with his siblings in five words and a pantomime, and who used three of his own words for adults. It was convenient for him not to answer or ignore the questions. One day, the same boy (then three years old) began to speak correctly, right away in full sentences. You ask your son where his nose is. And it bores him. Maybe he'll react if you ask where your nose is. He probably knows it well and knows how to show it. If you want to check if he knows the names of the items, sometimes ask him to give you something or bring you something. Play with him searching for items. Two-year-olds develop at a different pace, each has his own individual characteristics and needs. The ability to concentrate is short-lived. Usually they do something else every now and then. It is a period of intensive learning about the world. You need to leave the child a lot of freedom to experience reality independently. Let him touch, check, watch etc. Let him explore what interests him. If you are talking to your baby and there are no signs that they are listening, it doesn't mean they are deaf. Talk to him, tell the world he sees. Name items, activities, colors. Not as a lesson, but in a natural way, during a walk, play, household activities, etc. Whenyou say, for example, "look, the leaves are falling", "we're catching the leaves", you teach him the name of the object (leaves) and activities (fall, catch). He knows the words from then on and knows what they mean. Children have an unimaginable memory capacity. In speech, the words that imitate the sounds of "drip, drip!", "Stamp, stamp!", "Passed!" Are attractive for a child. "Bzzzz" etc. Usually they are happy to repeat it right away and start using it. If you want to know more about the development of toddlers, ways of proceeding, developing games - read about it. In bookstores and libraries you will find a lot of books for young children, such as the books: Kim Paleg "Ten Things All Parents Should Know", F.L.Ilg, L. B. Ames, S.M. Baker "Child's mental development from 0 to 10 years", Robert MacKenzie "When to allow? When to forbid?" or Thomas Gordon's "Upbringing Without Failures". I wish you peace and prosperity. B.
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