My 2-year-old son is a playful kid. He is generally cheerful and laughing, very communicative, but sometimes he doesn't want to listen. He says "no" to all requests and orders, recently when he doesn't get what he wants, he beats the person with his hand. How to behave in such a situation?
Two-year-olds are like that, unfortunately. You need to create a world for them in which there are categorical areas with strong, consistent rules and in which they have freedom and can explore. The first one includes beating. You absolutely have to tell him "you mustn't hit anyone". Of course, in a calm and serious tone. To this you need to add consistency and not hitting him. If he says "no", then you can ignore "no", because you are not asking him anything, but only recommending or asking. Attention here! The command is - Please do this, and the question is - will you do this please? He has the right to say "no" to the latter. If these are commands, you don't argue "no" with it, but consistently keep issuing them two to three times. If it doesn't work then you say do it, if you don't do it then I'll get up and come over and do it with you, count to three. One two Three. Often for a child it is too heavy a burden of consequences and he starts to do it himself not to get "three". However, if you count to three, you have to fulfill your promise - you get up, come over, take your hand firmly and do it together. Then you consistently introduce the rule of "three", and after some time the child reacts, because it is a nightmare when mom takes her hand and I have to do it anyway. Between us, I think that small children are raised with their own bum … You have to move your butt and come over and be consistent and do something with this child, not just from the armchair giving inconsistent commands, which the child ignores anyway. Good luck in consequence.
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Piotr Mosakeducational psychologist and business psychologist, business trainer, psychotherapist, university lecturer.
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