I have an almost three-year-old daughter who often gets hysterical attacks - they last a long time. I have another eight-month-old son. The daughter is very jealous of him and aggressive towards him (we take care of the little one together). I can't cope with my daughter's bouts of hysteria. How should I react?
Hello! First of all, give your daughter as much time and interest as possible when she is polite and calm. Don't wait until you are "forced" to do so by paying attention to it. One should respond to attacks of hysteria calmly and devote as little interest to them as possible. Ignore them, of course, keeping your child safe. Explain that you will take care of her when she calms down and be consistent in it. You can use the advice contained in the books of our native Superniani - Dorota Zawadzka or other books devoted to raising children, e.g. Fri "When to Allow and When to Forbid" American authors. You should also take a good look at your behavior - maybe you are doing something that particularly annoys or upsets the little one and thus shows your helplessness and nervousness? Children also have a right to them. I was a bit surprised by the sentence in your e-mail "we take care of the little one together". Together, that is you and who? Your baby girl? If so, remember that you are the only adult and it is up to you to look after these two. A little daughter can help you a little, as much as possible and willingly allow her, but nothing more. Maybe you make her demands too much and hence the anger?
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Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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