Good morning. I have been in a relationship for a year and I know very well that quarrels are an inherent aspect. For some time, my partner and I have been wondering whether they are bringing us closer or not. We try to make them constructive, so that it is not a simple exchange of views, which results in nothing. On the other hand, is it better to avoid them or rather treat them as something good and cleansing?
Hello! It all depends. It is important how often you argue, about what and how? Merely exchanging views is not a bad thing and only serves to get to know each other. However, if it turns into screams, insults and insults all the time, it's not okay anymore. If something results from the quarrel and you draw any conclusions from it for the future, try to respond to your partner's comments and what he wanted to convey, it's ok. However, if the quarrel serves to determine who is more important and stronger and who is "stronger in the mouth", then it is not ok. Sometimes an argument clears the atmosphere, but sometimes words are uttered in it, which we regret for a long time and prefer it never to happen. Anyway, it's worth talking, but it's also worth keeping an eye on your emotions and not giving in to them.
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Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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