I have been a happy wife for 3 years and a mother for 17 months, but I cannot say that I am also a happy lover. The lack of desire for sex began after the birth of my daughter. At the beginning I explained it with the fear of my second pregnancy, but now, when I stopped feeding my daughter about six months ago, it is even worse … I don't feel attractive: breasts used to be firm and full, during lactation they are now saggy and inelastic, stretch marks, cellulite, 5 kg overweight … The husband says that he does not mind, that he does not see it. He is worried that he cannot satisfy me in bed, and in order not to hurt him, I sometimes fake an orgasm to cheer him up and not to make him worry. Sometimes I have the impression that my vagina is unimaginably "stretched", I do not feel my husband at all, and yet before pregnancy I loved sex so much, I looked at my beloved, he at me and we were ready to caress. Now even my husband doesn't "turn me on". Is there something wrong with me? Should I be treated? Should I do any specialized hormonal tests? Please help me, advise me, because I do not know what to think about it all … Best regards and waiting for an answer.
Please try to give yourself some time, maybe you are tired of your offspring and everyday life. I suggest you see how things will be when you are completely rested and, for example, spend the weekend only with your husband. As for the physical imperfections of your body, you will get used to it over time, you can also try the right type of exercise, and in the end you will have surgery and advice from a sexologist.
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Monika Sieńkowska - KamińskaGynecologist, cytologist, visits Pułtusk, Krajewski 5.
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