For about a year now, my husband hasn't wanted to have sex. We have been together for 7 years. Both of us had never been terribly sexually active, 1-2 intercourse a week was enough. After 4.5 years of relationship, we started trying for a child. It only worked after 2.5 years of efforts. I am currently pregnant. For about a year, my husband hasn't wanted sex at all. I think it was because of the constant pressure to have sex before because we had been trying to have a baby for so long. However, the husband himself noticed that something was wrong, because he doesn't feel like having sex at all, I don't think he is masturbating either. The husband is very affectionate, but all he needs is cuddling and closeness without close-ups. Concerned about the situation, he did a research, everything is fine (morphology, cholesterol, testosterone levels and thyroid hormones are normal). The husband does not have a stressful job, and the financial condition of the family is very good, he is physically active and eats he althy. Additionally, soon our child will be born, for which my husband and I have been waiting for so long. During pregnancy, we cannot have intercourse because this is the doctor's recommendation. Despite everything, however, the husband does not feel like having sex. The husband also noted that for a long time he had no desire for anything or the will to act. I don't want to press my husband on this anymore, but I can see that it is starting to bother him too. I would like to add that the husband is 30 years old.
Lack of willingness and willingness to act, which has lasted for a long time, is one of the main symptoms of depression. A decline or a complete lack of interest in sex can also be associated with a mood disorder. I strongly recommend consulting a psychologist, especially since everything is fine from a medical point of view. Sometimes depression is not apparent at first glance. Masked depression or, for example, monosymtomatic depression may occur, when there is one predominant symptom, such as decreased libido and lack of interest in sex.
Undoubtedly, you have also had a difficult time trying for a child, which was paid for with a lot of stress and tensions. This may have been one of the reasons that contributed to the decline in sexual interest and the husband's overall hardship. Men experience pregnancy and motherhood in a completely different way than women. Sometimes it is a source of fears and anxieties for them that they cannot deal with. Just to say more onabout your situation, a more detailed interview and more information are needed. I recommend a psychological consultation once again.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Agnieszka ChochołSexologist, psychologist, Solution Focused Therapy therapist, certified ICC coach. He deals with promoting broadly understood sexual he alth as well as providing help and support in the field of sexual and psychological difficulties. She conducts individual therapy and couples therapy. More at: http://sulec-radom.pl/
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