I am 18 years old and my girlfriend is 17. Some time ago we decided to start intercourse. Everything was fine, I got excited, but when it came down to it, problems started. First, I had an erection problem. It was very weird because every time we kiss my penis is ready in say a minute. But when he was going to be really useful, he let me down. I couldn't get an erection, I don't know, maybe it's because I was stressed the first time, afraid that I would not be able to do it, etc. Once I had achieved an incomplete, but in my opinion, sufficient erection, I ejaculated while putting on the condom, and that was it. So we decided to give up normal sex for now and settle for otherwise. And here the problem arose that when we start petting, I come within a dozen or several dozen seconds. I am afraid that even when I manage to properly maintain an erection for normal intercourse, I will not satisfy my chosen one with this. And even though she keeps saying it over and over so I don't worry that it will pass and everything will be alright, I'm not that sure. Besides, I am also afraid that I will never be able to satisfy my girlfriend and our relationship will end. What can I do in this situation?
In men starting intercourse, the most common cause of problems with erection and very rapid ejaculation are psychogenic factors. You rightly noticed that severe stress and the thought that "I can't make it" were related to your erection problems. The solution may be the ad hoc use of one of the drugs improving erection, such as Viagra, Levitra or Cialis. I emphasize that it is about temporary use. This allows for the spontaneous course of sexual reactions and consolidation of the feeling of masculinity and self-confidence, which is necessary for the proper course of intercourse. Your GP may prescribe a prescription. It is possible and likely that after you have had regular sex for some time, you will notice a gradual increase in the duration of intercourse. I encourage you to approach it with calmness and patience, observe yourself, gradually learn your body's reactions, collect new experiences. Excessive stress, concentration on ejaculation, and anticipating premature ejaculation all increasea chance that he will reappear. Please contact a sexologist if the situation does not change over time.
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Agnieszka ChochołSexologist, psychologist, Solution Focused Therapy therapist, certified ICC coach. He deals with promoting broadly understood sexual he alth as well as providing help and support in the field of sexual and psychological difficulties. She conducts individual therapy and couples therapy. More at: http://sulec-radom.pl/
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