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I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. Recently, I feel no desire for sex. I don't take birth control pills. I love cuddling with my partner, kissing, but when it comes to caressing, something blocks me, I'm not ashamed of it, but I can't relax. Could it be because foreplay is very short (I often feel pain at the beginning of intercourse)? How long should it be?
Lack of desire for sex can be caused by unpleasant sensations caused by improper stimulation, or too short foreplay. There is no specific time limit for foreplay, it is an individual matter for each woman. It is important that during foreplay there is adequate excitement and lubrication of the vaginal walls - then penetration will not be painful. One woman takes half an hour to do this, another two minutes. If the caresses are too short and you do not get enough excitement and lubrication of the vagina, intercourse is painful. In such a situation, it is no wonder that you have a blockage.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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