I am homosexual, I have a permanent partner. I started a relationship a few months ago. From the very beginning, I noticed that something was wrong. Namely, when I start foreplay, everything is usually fine. However, after a while, the penis becomes soft and I can't do anything about it. I am more and more concerned about this. I feel downright embarrassed, often fearful that I will fail again. I'm afraid of my partner's reaction. At the very beginning I didn't have such a problem with it, with time it has changed and it's terrible. However, when I miraculously get an erection, it is difficult for me to orgasm during intercourse. However, I have full erections after waking up, thinking about sex, and so on, then everything is fine. In a few months I will be 18 years old and I am ashamed of this problem. I will add that I am he althy and physically fit. I am asking for help.
Hello
Often the reason lies in the psyche. Please answer the following questions: do you fully accept your orientation? Aren't you afraid of the reaction of your surroundings, disclosure to your parents and friends? Usually, people with homosexual orientation raise this type of concern, especially people living in our country who still lack a lot of tolerance. Such fears, doubts, and the lack of full acceptance of your orientation may cause problems for you. Full erections after waking up or during sexual fantasies prove that you are he althy, so the cause must lie in the psyche. Please reflect on these questions, sometimes just answering them makes for an improvement. If, however, you do not notice an improvement, it would be good to contact a sexologist-psychologist who will help you go through the process of acceptance and coming out (revealing yourself to others). Regards Magdalena Bogdaniuk
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Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. Leadspsychotherapy of victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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