My son is 11 and a half months old. He is developing wonderfully: he is already walking and even running, says mom, dad. The problem is that for three weeks, maybe a month, he has started behaving quite aggressively, and we have the feeling that he enjoys hitting someone, pinching someone, biting someone, pulling someone's hair. Despite repeating that it is not allowed that it hurts, he repeats the forbidden activity many times. He can hit the face unexpectedly. He behaves in this way towards us parents, but also towards grandmothers and nannies. How to react to such behavior, especially since it is painful and distressing. We try to pay a lot of attention to him when we are at home: we play, read fairy tales, sing songs. We try not to argue in the presence of our son. He is never left unattended.
Hello! The little ones get to know and check the world. They are trying their strength. They get satisfaction when they discover that something is provoking a violent reaction. Then they willingly repeat the experiment. For this reason, your reaction must not be violent (shout, squeak, beat, etc.). However, it must be firm. Hold the child's hand when he is going and firmly say, "Hit - no!" Then kiss and say, "Kiss - yes, but beat NO!" When he gets interested and he also kisses you, give you a hug and praise. Encourage them to repeat "Hit NO!" While threatening with a finger. This finger movement may interest a child more than the intention to beat. Let these two words (along with the new gesture) be the next after "mom" and "dad". The most difficult thing is to prevent a bite. Try to get ahead of the toddler and hold him down, then react in the same way. If you fail to prevent a bite, it takes a bit of theater: pretend you're crying, lament, tell mommy that it hurts to fix it (kiss you, hug you and apologize). Encourage your son to check on himself how much pain it is. Don't worry, he won't. He will refuse or, at most, will lightly touch his teeth. After all, the self-preservation instinct works. The whole action should last as short as possible, and immediately afterwards distract the child from the unpleasant event. After all, we want the toddler to be fascinated by other matters and experiments. On this, among others. human development is based. The behaviors you describe occur in young children periodically. So some parents try to wait and try not to react. However, this is not an easy and best solution. Stress-free educationit must have its limits. The child, although small, understands a lot already. Take advantage of this and explain the world to him as soon as possible. If one does not pay attention to "wildness" and does not dull it in any way, it may happen that the child's fascination with discovery grows and the behavior becomes fixed. And then it's harder to fight him. Good luck. B.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Barbara Śreniowska-SzafranEducator with many years of experience.
More advice from this expert
13 year old draws penises [Expert's tip]2-year-old still wakes up at night [Expert's tip]Aggression in a teenager [Expert's advice]The Rebellion of the Fourteen-Year-Old [Expert's Advice]Daughter (2 years and 3 months) wakes up at night and does not sleep [Expert advice]A two-year-old who is awake [Expert's tip]How to be a stepfather when the father rebels the child against you [Expert Advice]How to teach a 10 year old to be okay? [Expert advice]How to fight a computer addiction? [Expert advice]How to encourage a child to learn? [Expert advice]How to become a kindergarten teacher? [Expert advice]When the Child Beats [Expert Advice]Lies and threats from the child [Expert advice]Husband on a business trip [Expert's advice]Studying at night [Expert's tip]I can't cope with my 2-year-old son [Expert's tip]Reluctance to read [Expert Advice]Naughty preschooler [Expert's tip]Shyness, reticence and shyness. [Expert advice]Night Hysteria [Expert Advice]Morning abdominal pain [Expert advice]Problems with the adolescent son [Expert's tip]Problems with sleepiness, concentration, learning [Expert advice]Baby's Tearfulness [Expert's Advice]Conversation with a 12-year-old, learning problems [Expert's advice]Six-year-old victim syndrome? [Expert advice]Bullying [Expert Advice]Jealousy [Expert Advice]Rebellious Teen [Expert Advice]Misbehavior and Reluctance to Learn [Expert Advice]